Your question was: Will match.com give me a refund?.
It's up to you to decide what you want from this relationship, and if you're not getting it, to move on. I'm sure he likes you and enjoys your company but it sounds like this is enough for him. If it's not enough for you, then it's up to you to end it..
There's a reason this guy can't hold down a real relationship, and it's probably not because of you.If a guy ever really seems like he's using you for sex, LEAVE. Do not ask him if he's using you for sex, what is he supposed to say? Do you really think he's going to admit it? After six months you should know his agenda. I have no idea why women stay with men like this, as though life is just a frantic quest to find anyone to settle down with. You're giving him so much leeway to just take what he wants and give you nothing in return but a messier life. Six months is NOT a long relationship (thru Match.com) to get so attached to that you need to even consider that being used for sex might be better than being single. He's not what you want. Don't drag this out any longer...
ITA, especially with this:.
>>I have no idea why women stay with men like this, as though life is just a frantic quest to find anyone to settle down with. You're giving him so much leeway to just take what he wants and give you nothing in return but a messier life. Six months is NOT a long relationship (thru Match.com) to get so attached to that you need to even consider that being used for sex might be better than being single.<<.
CL - Women of Color ..
Yes taking control and making a decision is very empowering, making your life all about worrying where another person is at is the opposite, If you're unhappy do something about it. Good luck.
Well I think hes still into.. (obviously) his ex!! I dont doubt he likes you, but he is still in love with his ex. He, I'm sure , really wants to talk to you , if you say you guys talk everyday,... maybe as friends , though, .. and he gets a little butty on the side !! come on,,! think about it!! you rmaking things to easy for him. i think you should set up a date next time you see him, give him a glass of wine, and ask him where he sees things r going between you two.
If your really into this man, then let him go slowly.... you can always call him for a butty call ,... and have classy dates with other men. never kiss on the first date!!! remember girls!!! and remember always catch urself when your thinking of him ,... so you can immediatly remove him out of mind!!!!! but if it feels impossible to get him out of your mind ,...then , get busy doing something !!! ... clean, work , talk to someone , get on the net, watch a funny movie,....
Ok gotta go too much talk!!! whew!!! hope you get my advise.......
Thanks for everyone's reply. I did have a talk with him last night and basically he said he can't offer me what I want. so that was that. and although I am sad, I know it was the right and the best thing for me to do. I think I realize that he wasn't that into me. I think when you really like someone you make plans with them and if you are busy you make time.
My life will be better without him...