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Why are there so many jerks in Match.com?

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My question is: Why are there so many jerks in Match.com?.

My 2nd question is: OK, I'm SUPER confused.  Started dating/hanging out with this guy (knew him in highschool, but just recently reconnected) and I need some help clarifying if I'm headed for a "he's just not that into me" situation or if this is purely a "getting to know me" situation..

We've been hanging out/dating for only a few weeks (we are long distance (an hours drive), he owns his own business, and he is a divorced father of 2) and, I need some clarification with this whole text messaging thing..

Him and I text CONSTANTLY, as in all day long and I have been on 2 dates with him, (the last one was last Wednesday, almost a week ago).  My question is this..........   how do I get him to ask me out again?????   LOL  I am DYING to see him again, but have been keeping cool, if ya know what I mean.  I'm letting him chase me, but I am getting impatient!   lol   There is an obvious attraction and Im thinking that he likes this texting because he can get to know me, while juggling his responsibilities, but when does this turn into laziness???  Or should I just chill out and enjoy what I've got going on????  I'm cautious because I don't want this to turn into a "he's just not that into me"..

Comments (8)

You may have to be the one...you can easily say in a phone message no text!!!!...so when are you going to ask me out again. Be coy not serious...

Comment #1

Texting can turn into 'just another text' attitude as no one can see the emotions,feelings,expressions,tone,body language in it.You guys should be talking on the phone to get a bertter understanding of each other.let the guy chase,imO...

Comment #2

Thank you for your responses.......  I'm just unsure of how to go about changing this from texting to calling (because a pattern has sort of already started with us).

**sidenote**   I have a bad habit of being the chaser and Im trying REALLY hard not to do that because I really like this guy (and it has been awhile since I have felt this way) .

I am also trying REALLY hard not to convey how much I dig this guy because I want him to feel challenged (again, this is new for me.....)..

Comment #3

" I am DYING to see him again, but have been keeping cool, if ya know what I mean."Maybe I don't know what you mean, but I wouldn't equate texting constantly with keeping it cool.If you have a habit of being the chaser, and you want that to change, you need to stop being available in text message. Texting actually inhibits your ability to really get to know one another.Why don't you just tell him to figure out what he wants to do on the next date?..

Comment #4

You said you are letting him chase you. Good, that is the correct thing to do. You said you are getting impatient-don't. It is too early in the game. Don't be super confused. It is impossible after a few weeks to ascertain if he is or is not into you.

It is hard not to, I know, but just play it cool for now. It sounds like he has a lot on his plate, running his own business, two kids,on top of being one hour away. Try to live in the moment and take it one day at a time. Good luck to you...

Comment #5

I would just ask him out. I don't believe in the whole acting coy and pretending to be uninterested routine. If a guy likes you, he is not going to think any less of you just because he sees that you're interested in him. Or if he does, then he most likely has very low self-esteem and it's probably not a good idea to get involved with him anyway. I agree that you don't want to be the one who continues chasing him after he's shown you he's uninterested. However, going to the other extreme will just make you seem uninterested. Men with a healthy self-esteem are not going to want to waste their time on dating (online dating with Match.com) a woman who either isn't interested, is playing games, or just wants to make them do all the work without ever giving anything in return...

Comment #6

"I'm just unsure of how to go about changing this from texting to calling (because a pattern has sort of already started with us)"You change the pattern by being the first one to call and leave on a note that you will be waiting for his call.if he again texts,reply by a call and soon he should start calling.its a simple one,so to say.once you guys start calling,you will like to hear each others voices,recognize the toine etc.IMO, text is the best way to ruin things when you are getting to know each other.they can be used for small talk but not in this satge of your RS...

Comment #7

You change it by callin him yourself. Walla phone conversation. And you simply ask are would you like to go have dinner whatever nights you feel like you want to see him...

Comment #8


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