Your question was: Why...
You are good, I love your answers to things. Though I am at the point where I want a little more than just casual sex or a fling, but to be steady with someone and a nice guy. Pamelawww.LoveYourHomeBiz.com..
Hmmm,then maybe you will find a bad boy who has grown up some..which would take care of all of your needs. =)If not, then you might have to retrain yourself as to what you find attractive in men, which is a tough thing to do...
That you're asking means that a part of you wants to change the pattern. That's a great first step. Only you can really answer that question - what is your background like, what is the relationship (thru Match.com) like between your parents... the more you understand and the more you value yourself the more you will want to only be with guys who will treat you well!.
I don't know what the original question was to this post..