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My first question is: Who is the cute guy in the match.com myspace ads who takes his outer shirt off and is chewing gum?.

My next question is: Sorry if this is long, but I'm not sure if the rest of my post will make sense if I don't say this intro part.

I met this guy at work when he first broke up with his ex-fiance, so he wasn't ready to date using Match.com yet (January 2005 - I think I was 29 and he was 34 yrs).  However, he flirted with me so I took it as he wanted a casual one night fling.  I went along with it and tried seducing him,  but he still rejected me.  I have no idea why he flirted with me in the first place and asked for my number if he turned down sex with me. (?) We lost contact for a while and then I got promoted to his dept.  Shortly after my promotion, I quit.  Ironically, I rode the elevator with him the day I gave my 2 weeks notice so I told him I quit.

It was Friday at 5 pm when he saw me saying my goodbyes to everyone, which by the way, he came up to me and gave me a hug.  I was shocked.  Needless to say I was even more shocked when I left the office to find a voicemail from him.  I thought he deleted my number from his cell after the seduction and rejection.  After all, that was about 6 months ago.  Six months and no contact, so when I quit, he called me, Hmmmm.... (this was Fall, 2005)..

So we met up (March 2006) and I got a little tipsy and kissed him. I told him I liked him and then he told me he still loved his ex and wasn't "in to me."..

Yada yada yada...my guy friend and I have been friends now for 2 years which is fine.  He remained very good friends with his ex-fiance confiding in me that he told her he wanted her back, but she rejected him.   He  and I see each other maybe 3 x a year, but talk on the phone and email more. I'm sure he knows I still like him.  We rarely hang out, but when we do, it's only happy hour which lasts for 2 hours, so it's not like we are good friends.  I don't even know his friends, so it's just the two of us when we meet up..

He was downsized and busy job interviewing in 2007 so I gave him space and didn't call him, nor did he call me.  At first I thought it was for the best because I like him more than a friend and he doesn't feel the same (or so he said in 2006). So it would be better for me to end our friendship because it is painful for me.

January 2008 - guess who called me?  I was very shocked.  So we met up for happy hour again - I'm not giving every detail, but I don't know if he has changed his mind and is starting to like me, I have no idea. I would like to be at least 1% optimistic..

So we met up and after talking about his new job, he asked me how my love life is.  I told him how I met this guy.  It didn't work out but now we are friends.  I really forgot how the convo went after that,  but all I remember is me saying:.

"Well WE'RE  just friends, right?".

So his reply was:  "Thanks for putting me on the spot." He wasn't being sarcastic or anything.  He seemed sincere when he said it,  but then he went on to say it's really hard to find the right one these days.  Bars and clubs are no longer the right places to find girls. .

So that's his way of telling me we are only friends..........right? .

I asked him about his love life and he said he has had bad luck. .

Part of me wants to tell him that I can't be his friend anymore because I have feelings for him. The other part tells me not to tell him and continue our friendship,   because most my friends are married or dating (online dating with Match.com) so I am alone and bored most of the time.   He asked me out to the movies, but the way it came up in conversation was like I'm his last choice.  He told me that one Saturday he fell asleep at 10:00 pm  and wound up not going out. He was like "I'm getting old!  Can't party anymore."  (he's 37 and I'm 32).  He also hasn't been to the movies in so long because all his friends are busy or are dating, so he asked me if I wanted to go with him.  Nice way of asking me, like I am his last resort.  I haven't been to the movies either.  I know he still sees me as a friend.  No kiss goodbye either, just a hug.  Another part of me wants to be at least 1% optimistic about this.  What do you think?   Thanks...

Comments (4)

Your question was: Who is the cute guy in the match.com myspace ads who takes his outer shirt off and is chewing gum?.

It is one thing to be optimistic and another to hope for something that 1) doesnt seem viable and 2) doesnt appear to be in your best interests. .

 Sometimes people start to feel at a loss to find someone special to date using Match.com and keep "friends" on emotional strings just in case they need to dip into that well from time to time.  Be careful that he doesnt do that to you...

Comment #1

Thanks, but can you please clarify what you mean by  "dip into that well from time to time.".

Thanks...

Comment #2

You are the well that he would dip into in a metaphorical sense.  By dipping he comes and goes...doesnt stay..but dips in deep enough or enough times to make a difference...

Comment #3

Hi luvs2run,.

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The thing that stood out the most to me in your post...you both seem lonely.  So maybe both of you are "dipping into the well".  I don't think this is a bad way to start a relationship, maybe not the best, but not bad either. .

I also think you should put him on the spot!!  He knows you like him!!  I'd so no more happy hours.  You want a proper date!!  This will tell you what his intentions are..

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Good Luck,.

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Comment #4


This question was taken from a support group/message board and re-posted here so others can learn from it.

 

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