Your question was: Who here has used match.com or other online dating sites?.
I may be fatalistic in my approach, but I'd forget about him.
"We'll play it by ear" is his response when you ask if you should/could call him? Kiss of death..
Speaking of kissing, what man wouldn't want to steal a kiss or two even from a woman who's more than willing to oblige him? That he hasn't been responding to your messages could mean that he's a.) busy but doesn't care enough to text you to let you know that, or b.) not interested. You deserve a guy who's interested, whose behavior you don't need a compass and map to navigate through. You shouldn't have to beg for his attention (which, in effect, is what you're doing with your messages) and nothing says "run" to a man like desperate, and nothing says desperate like begging..
Don't wait on this one. If he's interested, he'll find his way back to you. You, in the meantime, have some dating (online dating with Match.com) to do.....
Thanks for your reply.In my gut I know I shouldn't be so desperate because I'm smart and cute and blah blah blah, but I don't get a lot of dates because I'm so busy and it's hard to meet people, and I get over-excited when a date using Match.com comes along.Again, thanks - I know you're right... sigh.....
When someone says "play it by ear" and doesnt make arrangements for the next date using Match.com it is not a good sign. He obviously doesnt want to go out again..time to say "next!"..
You OBVIOUSLY like him, since you've called him numerous times without a response. So... what to do. STOP IT!.
Here's the deal, Angie. *IF* a guy is INTO you, HE'LL ACT LIKE IT. If he's NOT into you, HE WON'T RETURN CALLS!!.
IT'S THAT SIMPLE!!!.
Why you have such an emotional attachment to him, I don't know. But it smells like neediness to me, which is NEVER ATTRACTIVE..
Continue on with your life, and *IF* he decides to call, cool. If not... also cool. This SHOULD be a HUGE lesson for you, so... if you DO NOT learn from this experience, then you're going to repeat it a 1000 x's and wonder why guys keep doing this to you.
He's giving you signs of DISINTEREST. It has NOTHING to do with YOU. He has a life to live, and so do you. If you take everything everyone does personally, that's what being NEUROTIC is. Don't be a neurotic..
I agree with the other posters. Don't take it too personally when he isn't interested. Blow him off and move on!..