Your question was: Who designed the website/(created it) for match.com?.
<< He's a great guy, and I do *like* him, and want to pursue a relationship (thru Match.com) with him, but I can't have a relationship (thru Match.com) with someone I don't enjoy sex with! WDYT?>>.
Do you know that he wants to pursue a relationship (thru Match.com) with you? (per your "the girlfriend conversation" on the OLD board).
It does sound like you're putting the cart before the horse and expecting too much too soon for the amount of time you've been seeing each other..
Ok, so ... your question here ... if he doesn't do it for you, he doesn't do it for you. Sometimes, you can show a guy what you like ... takes a bit of time but ... it can work.
But, that's kind of a moot point if you don't know there's even potential for a relationship, kwim?..
Oh, yeah, I just never came and updated over there. We talked the other night, and he said that he does think we have potential, and that he likes me and wishes he could see me more if not for his crazy work schedule (but we're seeing each other 3x/wk, which I'm fine with.)But anyway...do you think it just has to do with the fact that I'm so fresh out a *love* relationship (thru Match.com) that I'm just not letting myself fall for him, and that's what I need to have good sex?..
Are you saying you didnt actually feel him stimulating you there or are you saying you did not get aroused sufficiently from his stimulation?.
No, a relationship (thru Match.com) isnt going to go well if you do not enjoy the sex with him...
<< We talked the other night, and he said that he does think we have potential, and that he likes me and wishes he could see me more if not for his crazy work schedule (but we're seeing each other 3x/wk, which I'm fine with.) >>.
Ok, but ... and I hate to continue harping the issue but his saying "I like you and I wish we could see each other more" is not agreeing on being exclusive. It's exactly what he said ... he likes you ... and he wishes he could see you more. .
3x/week is certainly a good sign ... but, it doesn't mean anything in terms of his intentions (particularly since you're having sex already). .
The problem with these types of situations is ... as a woman, it's hard to know if he genuniely likes you ... or if he likes knowing that he's going to get sex (even if he's not getting any that day or night ... if it's frequent enough ... and the guy knows he has a 'sex source' ... that's often enough to keep a guy around)..
Sorry, not trying to burst your bubble ... but, sex prior to exclusivity is a sure-fire way to prolong a guy making it 'official.' Sure, there are 'exceptions to the rule' ... but for the most part ... it only prolongs things for the woman in terms of getting what SHE wants. Under those exceptions, the woman doesn't have to wonder ... there's no doubt about the guy's intention ... because he TELLS HER ...
Anyhoo, regarding your question: << But anyway...do you think it just has to do with the fact that I'm so fresh out a *love* relationship (thru Match.com) that I'm just not letting myself fall for him, and that's what I need to have good sex? >>.
Doubtful. It probably just is what it is. Sexual incompatiblity. I think if you met someone you were sexually compatible with, you'd be having good sex. If not, you're not. It isn't rocket science. ;-).
It might take a while to get used to him. I'd say if the relationship (thru Match.com) is going well in all other aspects, give it some more time to get better in the bed.. It might just take a little more sex with him to get it right. .
Also, do you think maybe you're comparing the intimacy with your Ex to this guy? I think a lot of times sex becomes better as the intimacy intensifies. You can't have that right off the bat with a new person...