Your question was: Where does a lady in her late 40's meet someone nice and not in a bar or match.com?.
Join a club, an organization dealing with something you are passionate about, volunteer, try new things that you haven't tried but wanted to try (dancing, karate, gardening,horseback riding, book club and the list goes on). Try meetup.org most bigger cities have one, they get together a couple times a month. Try OLD (but you really need a thick skin and you have to be careful a lot of frogs out there). Enjoy your life make yourself happy and eventually you will meet the same...
What are some of your interests? Go to lectures, volunteer, take classes. And use the internet for much more than dating (online dating with Match.com) sites - Check out meetup.com which has hundreds of events; whatever city you're in has a linkup.com which also brings people together for activities they enjoy; every city has craigslist.org, which also has people posting activities. And keep asking friends, family, co-workers. .. The idea is to network. .
I know you have a belief that the 'club' is NOT a place to meet someone looking for a r-ship. Well... truth be told is that there are LOTS of guys at the club that want what you want. The thing is, is that most guys, regardless if they're in the club or not, and just like MOST women, WANT TO HAVE SEX before anything super serious happens. Sex is just one part of a blossoming r-ship. I think most people stereotype the club with guys that ONLY want sex.
Men get the label of being 'dogs'..
But... if you're not into clubs... cool.
You want to know where men are? Really? Listen... Men are EVERYWHERE you look. The thing is, is that if you don't know how to 'ATTRACT' men, then.... that's a whole other topic..
Do you know how to attract men? I mean, men that are men and not little boys trapped in a man's body? If not, this is the homework you need to STUDY and LEARN!.
Do you know how to flirt? Do you know what men want? Do you know what YOU want?.
Go to the grocery store and fondle some produce for awhile ;-).
Actually, I think the very first step is to be fairly clear on the type of man and types of characteristics you desire. Once you have a reasonable list of these things, then start to understand where men of these qualities spend their free time..
For instance, if you enjoy sports, then perhaps go out to a few amateur sports events in the sport you are most interested in. If you hate sports, then don't go to the Driving Range thinking that your Prince Charming is going to magically arrive on the scene. You need to put yourself into places where opportunity exists and matches various characteristics you desire...
Thanks everyone for the responses! Does joing clubs at my age really work?.
I do like to stay active I am at the gym constantly, but dont think that is a really good meeting place..
Interests? Hmmmm.....I dont know about that one. I do like soccer and I LOVE MMA! Other than that I like to shop and work out, but I dont know what else should be included in my "interests" I am always baffled by the question, "what are you hobbies?" I have no idea what to say! I do love antiques and collecting vintage stuff, but that more MY thing and it would be quite weird to find a guy into that..
Its hard to meet men alone, but it's so much harder finding a connection with someone. I am ready to settle down and want to find a man who feels the same. Are their really good quality single men who are my age and not taken?? ..