Hi and welcome to the board!!.
Money is a very serious topic. You hear all the time that money is one of the main topics that couples fight about. You have to talk to him about this. And I think you should make it about your feeling over the subject not about his habits. I'd also tell him that you think it is a really good idea for the two of you to find a place of your own. I got the impression that he'd like to buy a place. Talk about how the two of you will handle your money. Will it be in separate accounts or joint. Set a buget up and if no joint account, than how will the two of you split bills? If you can't work these things out, I wouldn't get married..
I hope this helps a little and good luck!!.
I agree with what you said and i'll take it into consideration - Let's see what happens....
Thanks for the reply!!.
I wanted to be sure of something - you told me not to pay attention to his customs but he is used to not having responsibilities at all at home, you don't think that might be a problem or I should just ignore that? let me know what you think..
No no no. I'm sorry I wasn't more clear. Don't ignore how he handles his money or customes. What I mean is if you approach this as if he is the problem, than he will be defensive and you might not get anywhere. If you approach this topic as a fear of yours (which is the truth) than he should be more responsive. I know this sounds mean, but he's a Mama's boy and you need to know if you can take care of the bills and keep him from spending all of the money. You have to set up a budget that you BOTH agree on. If he doesn't feel he's had enough say on this, than it won't stick for him and you will be rehashing this subject for a long time. It' okay for you to tell him that since he really hasn't had to do a lot with budgetting an planning for a successful financial future that you are worried. Ask him how He would like to handle the two of you being out on your own..
I learned this with my ex husband. If he's not 50% of the plan he won't keep it. .
I hope this clears things up!!!.