Mmm I totally understand what you are going through!! liking someone and wanting to spend time with them and feeling that you are in a relationship (thru Match.com) is something that almost everyone wants however sometimes we are not lucky enough to be with a person who wants the same!!!.
I went through exactly the same thing, and actually tried different ways to make him change the way he was acting ( He always preferred hanging out with friends or relaxing at home ALONE) I tried putting too much effort in the relationship, hoping that this would make him feel me, and I also tried to play it cool and make him pursue me and I finally spoke out and made him know how I felt about his actions!!! to tell you the truth non of the previous ways worked and I eventually learnt that it was hard to change the guy because simply he was not into me enough to be serious and want to spend all his time with me.
I know that it's very sad when you like someone and he does not respond positively to your feelings, but it happens. My advice is to take it easy and try to date using Match.com others because he is not a keeper, I am very sorry.....
Zara, girl, this is like the perfect dating (online dating with Match.com) doyenne post. just wanted to let you know.
You don't say what it is that makes you think he really likes you. If he acts like he doesn't want to spend time with you and doesn't pursue you, then it doesn't sound like a guy who's interested.You should do your part to let a guy know you like him and that it's safe to pursue you. Beyond that, it's up to him though. He needs to show you that he wants it too. If you feel like you're having to do all the pushing, then he's probably just going along with things and not really that interested...
You said that the two of you are just talking right now. Does he ever mention getting together in the future .. or is it just friendly talk? You can ask him in a playful way when he is going to ask you out on a date. If he likes you .. that wont scare him off...
Ohhhh sweetie, I am glad you think this way.
Take good care of yourself and rock on..
Yousay he is flakey to you but you like him???? You talk every day but it isnt substance filled but you like him??? thats confussing??? he spends time with his friends first because they are first you arent BF and GF...you may not be even dating????..