I would feel free to send a Facebook request to his mom. I don't think you have to be close friends with somebody for them to be in your Facebook network. Most people I know with Facebook have a much larger network than that. If she's his mom and you've met her a couple of times, then you should have enough of a relationship (thru Match.com) with her to add her.I also don't think you should let his ex stop you from forming relationships with his family. His family's relationships with her and their relationship (thru Match.com) with you are two separate things. There is no reason why it has to be a competition and why they can't be friendly with both of you.
It's fine if she wants to continue a relationship (thru Match.com) with his ex, but she will have to learn to accept you as well.You didn't mention how long you've been together. If you haven't been together that long, that may be part of the issue as well. It takes time for relationships with the family to form. Other people may also still be feeling uncertain about whether your relationship (thru Match.com) will last if things are still relatively new and might also be holding off on getting close for that reason as well. Just give it time and don't give up...
Thank you very much for the response! We will be together 2 years in January. We are also looking for a house and a place to live and settle down..
Im actually nervous about friend requesting his mom. Ive gotten a chance to speak with her on some occassions and it took her to get warmed up to me. But yes she does have that close relationship (thru Match.com) with her ex. Do you think it would be ok to request her as a friend? I dont want to pry into the family if it's still new. Would lamost 2 years still be considered new? Why hasn't she friend requested me? I kinda feel like if she wanted me to be part of the family or wanted me to be close with them then she would have. I feel like she doesnt want to because the Ex is friends with her along with the Exs sister and her cousin.
Should I just do it? U think though that it will bother me if I see comments and stuff by the ex on her page? Im also afraid of what I might see. Thanks for your input thus far. dating (online dating with Match.com) a parent is not easy...Although my BF gets shut out...I hope it's not because of me. Like his mom made plans with the Ex for getting together for halloween with the kids. My BF is not going.
I hope not.
Facebook can be dangerous - easy to get a little paranoid, suspicious on one's partners friends, relatives, etc. It;s ok if you friend his mother but maybe easier right now not to.