Your question was: What is the difference between e harmony and match.com?.
Everyone has their own style of communicating. If I were in your shoes I'd probably bring each item up I wanted to address one at a time over a period of time - not all at once if there was a chance I could overwhelm someone. If you know him well enough to know that he would not become overwhelmed by your list...then handle it as you see fit..
Just remember - this is a relationship, not a business arrangement. What you want to avoid is him agreeing to all of the things on your list and then one day you are left with a big surprise when he tells you that he didnt want to do all of those things later on...but he agreed to the list. What you want to see is his drive for wanting to see you and spending time with you. You want to see his passion for YOU. This way you dont waste your time with him. A list may circumvent that opportunity. Momentum should be building at this point in your relationship (thru Match.com) and that momentum is achieved through romance..
If you were further into the relationship (thru Match.com) then I'd see it differently because more mundane topics are covered as time moves on...
My suggestion would be to NOT whip out a list, and read off the things you want from him. Not very attractive. Knowing what you want is PERFECT. I always suggest people to write down everything that they want from a specific situation. I like that you know what you want. To me, it's almost TOO specific (specially on how many times a week you want to see him), but...
Do you know where he stands with being exclusive with somebody? Is he looking for a g/f? Has he had successful r-ships in the past? Is going to be able to nurture your womanly needs, sexually and emotionally?.
Some guys could get scared away with 'the talk', but... if you're pretty confident he's down, then go for it.
I hope I'm not too late, but it's good that you know what you want to communicate. Be open and honest and I'm sure he will appreicate that!! Try to think of his style of communication and be somewhat accomidating. It might help him understand you better..
Yes take your time introducing your entire agenda. Get to know and care for each other first. As that happens each will want to please the other which involves making compromises. And you may come to discover he has his own list of items!.