Your question was: What are the top reasons people enter and join matching sites such as match.com/eharmony/etc?.
Eleven years can be appreciable or no big deal depending on people involved. And that's the point - don't base your feelings on how to proceed in this relationship (thru Match.com) on worrying about others' reactions. How do you feel?.
But the more I get to know him it seems the closer I find myself to him.>this is as it should be. From your post I get that this is a new relationship. Give it time, relax and enjoy it..
The attraction just isn't where i'd like it to be>again this is a very new relationship (thru Match.com) just where do you think it should be? This sounds like a very mature and good solid getting to know each other time. Dont be in such a hurry enjoy the ride and dont worry about the ending yet..
The fact that he is older makes me worry about what ppl think>you cant control what people think, they are going to think what they think no matter what you do or dont do. Dont waste your time and energy worrying about this. If you are happy and are getting enjoyment out of dating (online dating with Match.com) this man, then go for it, be happy and quit your worrying, it may just ruin a good thing..
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My next door neighbor.
Wants to ban all guns.
THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.
Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.
Them with my guns..
A couple of things really stand out in your post. First, you seem to feed into the BS about what society says about age. How come? If you're concerned about what society will think, I'm not sure you're emotionally ready to be in a serious r-ship. How could you be. If you're "afraid" to LOVE, b/c of what people think, then... I can't see how you'd be able to love someone else without it being FEAR based..
A closed mind ALWAYS closes off the heart. STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!!! Once you're able to do this, I think your r-ship with YOURSELF, and then others, will only get better...
Yes it is up to you, an individual decision, but I too have a friend who married a man 25 years older and now feels more like his caretaker. Have they had wonderful times? Absolutely? Would she do it over? Probably not..