He's basically telling you he likes you and wants to be more than friends, i.e. wants to hang out, hook up etc. but letting you know in advance not to expect too much because he is not ready for a relationship. ..
" it was like pulling teeth to actually see him." you dont need a guy with that attitude! does he believe himself to be Brad pitt or something?? to whom you would be thankful if he showed up in a blue moon? Isnt that a turn off? When a guy really likes you and is serious,he will come up with all the absurd excuses to show up in places you visit,KWiM? will 'happen' to be there,kind of thing.This guy is flaky.Dont waste more time than you already have...
Well, I'm keeping at a good distance. I had a party this weekend. He came for a spell, and he seemed to have fun. I appreciated him showing up. I sent him off to go out with his friends..
He is going to be gone for a while to look after his mom. Timing is just off. I'm on the market..
Weeellll, fast forward a week. I haven't talked to him in a while..
And then, not to sound like a 14 yr old, I go on Facebook today, and he is all over it. Tagged in pictures at the bar. And then his ex girlfriend is posting about being excited to see him soon. .
I'm not going to contact him. He can do his own thing...
I know the outcome to this with the bar and the pics and the ex-gf, but just wanted to say one thing in regards to what you originally asked about:He just seemed to have made a joke in reference to you joking with people you want to be "wooed" and because t was him and because of your history, you took it a bit seriously, even though you played it off (well done, btw), so he had to come back with no, he's not "ready" to be serious about anyone, blah blah. He felt he had to backtrack off his joking manner with you, is all that was, I think.And playing around in a bar and making plans with the ex just kind of proves that. So anyway, next!.
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