Your question was: Running into the ex.
Why do you think people would think you were stupid for having feelings for your ex? why are you not "allowed" to be together? And if you really want to reconcile, then why dont' you?I understand what you are trying to say - you just want to know that you will fall in love again. You will. Each love is different because you have grown and changed along the way, thus the relationship (thru Match.com) is different...
I can certainly understand your feelings.However, the things that caused you to break up before are still there (right?) Religion and children are a big deal, and disagreement about those two issues is huge, so I just see that dooming your relationship (thru Match.com) once again. That is, if you're thinking about trying to rekindle anything.I once got back together with a guy that actually broke up with me. We had been apart for a year when he came back into my life. There was a great deal of attraction between us, and so we got back together. After two weeks I realized it was a mistake, but kept on for another year. In the end, I broke up with him, because of all the same issues.
You say you think he might want to be friends...maybe friends with benefits? I know some people are able to be friends with their ex's, but I think it's kind of rare.Perhaps you need to pursue this right now, to really put it to rest once and for all. It is likely that you have glorified this past relationship, and once you're with him again for a while, you'll see that it is not right for you anymore and that you really have moved on. All the best. FG..
I agree with you about old issues resurfacing. Issues dont just magically disappear by themselves. I also agree that she needs to play this out for whatever reason she has and then it will be done...
It's not stupid, it's very understandable, he's like catnip to you, the more you have the more you want. But since this catnip is dangerous for you , to truly get over him and find someone with whom you can share a life you're probably better off not trying to maintain a "friendship.".