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My first question is: On Match.com, are non-members able to read e-mails sent to them by paid-up members?.

My next question is: Hello,.

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I am a 32 year old single woman.  Lately, I've noticed that more and more older men (42-52) have approached me and have expressed romantic  interest in me.  While I am very flattered, I still can't help but to wonder about the motive behind the attraction (ie. curiosity, mid-life crisis, serious attraction, etc).  The men usually approach me in places where you perform normal daily activities - work, the gym, bookstores, grocery stores, etc.  I am not opposed to dating (online dating with Match.com) older men; I've dated older men in the past (me- 18, he- 26; me 29, he- 45), and the relationships have been great.  However, I am curious to know what motivates older men to pursue younger women.  Just to let you know, I have a great relationship (thru Match.com) with my father, so I'm not looking for a replacement, am emotionally stable, financially independent (I own my own home), and stable in my career (college professor).  Any insight would be helpful...

Comments (9)

Your question was: On Match.com, are non-members able to read e-mails sent to them by paid-up members?.

Well, I would suppose you're being approached by men closer to your age as well?  You're probably being approached by men because they think you're attractive and approachable.  See, I don't think that the older men are going to think "she is so much younger than me, I'm robbing the cradle."  I think they think: "she's cute and maybe she'll be interested in me."  : )  Maybe you're wondering why are you being approached more now in your 30s than when you were in your 20s?  I think a lot of men in their 40s and 50s appreciate maturity in women, so you'ved aged into a older dating (online dating with Match.com) pool.  But you are emotionally & financially stable, so the 50 yo isn't thinking father figure.  He's thinking you're an adult, you're attractive, and he wants to see if you're available.   ..

Comment #1

 I think the simple answer to your curiosity is that... older men are more mature and aren't afraid of rejection..

 I'm curious why YOU think they approach you. What's your thoughts?..

Comment #2

M_kiera and ekatie23,.

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Thanks for your responses.  They have given me some things to think about..

To answer your questions.....rarely do men my age or close to my age approach me.  If there is any interaction, it's usually because I've approached them.  Regarding why I think older men approach me.....I've asked myself this question, and have to admit, I'm still a little unsure.  I do believe that maturity plays a role, as the older men that have approached me have commented on me being a 'mature 32'after speaking to me. .

Mmmmm......Maybe this is the answer and I'm spending too much time analyzing it rather than just enjoying the attention.......other thoughts? ..

Comment #3

"However, I am curious to know what motivates older men to pursue younger women."Once again, I'm probably going to catch hell for saying something, but here goes...Because we find them more attractive. Sorry!!!! I didn't make the rules; I'm just reporting on them. That's simply the way it is...

Comment #4

"I think the simple answer to your curiosity is that... older men are more mature and aren't afraid of rejection."BinGO! Now that I'm an older man myself, I can confirm that this is true. When I was younger, I worked out all the time trying to get a perfect body in the hopes that it would attract a hottie here or there. It didn't work. I was terrified of girls, couldn't speak to them, had no idea how to treat them, tried too hard, and basically did everything wrong. Now that I'm older, I basically assume failure and therefore just act like myself, am perfectly relaxed, at ease, etc...

I'm older, fatter, balder, and uglier than I used to be, and now I'm getting invited out - or over - by 20-something models or girls who could be. I look at it as payback for my decades of datelessness in my 20s and 30s...

Comment #5

Often it helps them feel young, recapture a bit of youth.

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Comment #6

You're obviously attractive to them and if one is attractive to you then GO FOR IT!..

Comment #7

It's a real ego boost for an older man to get attention from a younger woman!.

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Comment #8

Well there is the trying to recapture youth and feed the ego if a young woman is interested  in a older man part.

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Comment #9


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