Your question was: Need some advice..PLEASE.
His "hard" questions seem to me more a way to get to know you, not to test you. And, if it was a test it doesn't mean there is a wrong answer there is just a wrong answer for him. If he knows that he only wants to be with someone who loves football and is willing to cook every night, and that's just not you, it's better to know now and cut things off before more feelings develop..
And don't feel guilty for not inviting him to spend the night!! It was a first date using Match.com and would have sent the wrong message..
Hopefully you hear from him soon!..
It's SO funny how different people have different interpretations of the same thing. LOL I love it. Because to me those questions are really pushy for a first date! Maybe a few dates later when you're comfortable and hanging out on the couch! Those questions would actually annoy me and I wouldn't want to see him again. But I noticed that most of your post was all about what *he* thought, etc. I'd be like err, screw what *he* thought, what do *I* think about *him*? *Really* think about it, I mean, was there a super-sparks connection? Is he really really super great, can't-let-him-go guy? Do *you* like him alot? Because what *you* think matters too! ..
He asked you very pointed questions. I have experienced that with men and it usually puts me off. There is usually a way to work in questions into a conversation without an "interview" feel to it. .
He didnt ask to take you out again on a nighttime date, more like a sports outting...casual...how do you feel about that?.
It doesnt sound like you like him all that much. It sounds like you felt judged by him that night. It wasnt very considerate of him to not text you back after you expressed concern about him. I'd take him or leave him if I were you. That is...unless his actions and demeanor change on the next date...
Ok, here is an update. He did text me today (Tuesday)..he has always been a little late on his texts..but since it was after the first date..I got a little nervous. I didn't immediately reply to his text b/c I decided that I would call him that night..since I am getting tired of all the texting and it's so impersonal. But before I called him he texted me AGAIN..just something random..
So I think he still may be interested in me, but maybe those questions were his way of finding out if I would be the right fit and if he would be the right fit for me. He is slightly older (he's 32) and he is probably sick of playing games and thinks it may be a waste of time to have any further dates if he doesn't think we are a good fit. It seems to me he is looking for something serious and long term (as I am too). The reason why I was focusing more on the *what does he think* rather than the *what do I think*, is mainly because I already know I like him. We have a lot in common, he's got a great personality, he's attractive and easy going. He's the kind of guy you would want to take home to mom and dad. So in a way, I've made my decision...and I think I would like to continue seeing him, if he wanted to do the same..
I called him tonight after I left a friend's house and we had a nice conversation. So things may be picking up..it just stinks b/c this weekend he is out of town for a basketball clinic and next weekend I am out of town for a college football game. I swear..the life of a coach these days I will post more updates as I get them. There's always SOMETHING to stress about in relationships!..
Good luck! Hope things work out for you. =)..