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My first question is: My profile oicture was not accepted and there are a lot worse one's on your sight, I just left match.

My next question is:  .

My boyfriend of a year and a half, shocked me when I gave home from vacation.  He told me three things: 1.  He doesn't think he is in love with me anymore, 2.  He looked at apartments while I was gone, 3.  He got his deposit back on the engagement ring we had picked out.  When you told me all of this, I was surprised because we never fight and other than adjusting to living together we don't have any problems.  I told him I was committed to our relationship (thru Match.com) and I was willing to try to work out any issues.  I explained to him that we had two choices, we could both commit to trying or we could break up.  He said he didn't think trying would change how he feels.  I said ok, then we have to break up.  I asked him to stay with friends until he could get a new place.  He seemed very surprised by this because he thought I would let him stay on the couch in my home until he could find something else.  I told him that wasn't appropriate. .

It has now been two weeks and he still doesn't have a new apartment.  He wants to come over and pick up more of his clothes.  Can I tell him it is too soon for me to see him?  Can I pack his things and tell him I will leave them at the front desk?  I just don't want to be here when he packs up his things.  It will be too hard for me.  Especially because he is acting like we were never more than roommates..

Someone please tell me what to do..

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Comments (4)

Your question was: My profile oicture was not accepted and there are a lot worse one's on your sight, I just left match.

What I would do is the packing up and leaving at the desk. ..

Comment #1

"Can I pack his things and tell him I will leave them at the front desk?".

Yes.  He's a mighty cold person.  I wouldnt extend much warmth to him if I were you...

Comment #2

IMO, you don't have a "right" to tell him he can't pick up his stuff but you DO have a right to not see him when he does.  I personally think it would be really tough to pack up his stuff and wouldn't want to do it.  If you think you can handle it or even think it might be good closure for you, then yes, pack it up and leave it somewhere he can pick it up without bothering you.  Or if you don't think you can do it without being emotional or whatever, tell him a time that he can come pack his stuff that YOU will be gone but maybe have a friend or family member be there in your place to let him in and "supervise" per se. .

It sucks this happened but you're better off.  Good luck.

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Comment #3

Hi Alias9601,.

Welcome to the board!!.

So sorry that this happened!!!.

You don't have to see him if you don't want to!!!  When my husband left me I didn't like seeing  him either.  Ask a really good close friend to come over and help you pack his stuff up and definitly leave it at the front desk!!!.

Lots of hugs,.

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Comment #4


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