Your question was: My Girl friend moved her from out of state to get away from a bad life.She found me on Match.com?.
"I am dating (online dating with Match.com) this guy that is really shy (to the point that he fidgets on dates) and geeky.".
Well, if it was me and I saw my date using Match.com fidgetting a lot I'd probably say, "I have a better idea about what to do with your hands if you are interested. ((wink wink))" But my mind goes right into the gutter in these types of situations, hehe..
You could try to have a heart to heart with him and tell him that you understand that he is not comfortable with speaking on the phone but there really is no other way to build closeness. Emails and texts are good little in-between type fillers but conversation is the only way to connect..
Do you really want to take on a 'project' like this? This guy has ZERO dating (online dating with Match.com) skills and yet you seem to still want him. Why? I'm not trying to dog him or you out, I'm just curious what you motives are to pursue this any further. You can't FIX this. He is the ONLY one that can. Also... Imagine how terrible the sex will be.
Youve only gone out a few times so it's too early to discuss exclusivity.
If he doesn't feel like he's a good talker probably being on the phone makes him nervous - but you can say that it doens't matter what the two of you talk about it's nice to keep in touch between dates on the phone.
Thanks for all the replies guys. I can't stop laughing after reading your message. I know what you mean, my friends have asked me the same question. Well, I don't think I have any motives really. He is incredibly smart, honest, he seems very loyal, innocent (is this even a compliment for guys?), he has a great career, and he is a very good looking nerd! lol!.
I do agree that it's too soon to talk about being exclusive, I guess I am just more in a hurry than he is. We are going on another date using Match.com this week, so we will see what happens.
Have a great day everyone!..