Your question was: My friend met this guy on match.com?.
Are you finding it hard to tell how you feel because you are semi-involved with both of them - plus the ex? Some people can date using Match.com multiple partners at once and some cant..
The first guy may make a nice buddy with whom you can enjoy a physical relationship (thru Match.com) and have someone fun or nice to talk to. Since he does not initiate contact with you often then he is looking for something casual. If you want a relationship (thru Match.com) like this in your life, then go for it. But dont expect to have him be your boyfriend or expect boyfriend-like behaviors from him. You said that you are ignoring him because you sense he primarily wants a physical relationship (thru Match.com) with you, but in all honesty you are probably not ready for a heavy duty emotional relationship (thru Match.com) right now because of the divorce - the change of pace could be nice for you..
"If I meet some one with who I share some chemistry and if I kiss him I sometimes feel - he is taking advantage of me being single."> well, he could say the same about you...that you are taking advantage of him physically, hehehe. .
The second guy sounds very sweet and nice, but if you dont have *it* for him chemistry-wise, then let him go because he is moving rather fast for someone who does not share a passionate relationship (thru Match.com) with you. You need to have a conversation with him and relay your feelings to him...
Thanks for clearing this up I might talk to him over this long weekend. but I will first wait for one more day and see if he is gonna call me. U think I should let him know I felt used? The problem is - I want him to call me and tell me he wants to see me. But if I have given him hints that I am not into him, he wont do that I know. But I am hoping for some magic I am being too optimistic! Maybe I will end this with him soon! Is it wrong to get some kisses after all?..
Who do you feel used you the first guy from NYE or the other?.
From what I got from your original post you wanted to know whether or not to tell the second guy (the one who helped you move) that you wanted to break things off - I am not getting that from your second post. It sounds like you are now talking about the first guy again...the one you are ignoring. Is that correct?.
I think you need to take some time for yourself without being with anyone right now. Maybe get some counseling to work through your divorce and other issues, work on your self esteem.How do you think he used you.... By kissing you? Did you kiss him back? Did he twist your arm for the kiss? YOU are responsible for your actions, if he kissed you and you kissed him back, then that is not using you, you went along with it...Hoping for magic when you are a child is great, but that doesn't happen when you grow up. If you gave him the feeling that you didn't want anything to do with him, then he shouldn't call you. If you want to see him, then you need to put forth the effort and let him know you are interested. Why would you think it is wrong to get some kisses? What is so wrong about enjoying things as they come, just because you share some kisses with someone doesn't mean anything but you kissed.