Your question was: My EX BF Dumped me to think things thru and now he's back on match.com where we met??? WTF?.
Do you still have your own interests? Are you still maintaining your own friendships and fitting him into your schedule or are you being completely available to fit into his? If it seems to him that you are too available, that could be a reason he might be backing off. No matter how long you knew each other - it's only been a month that you've been dating. I agree that he could have called when he said he would. I don't want to make any more assumptions, though. Could you give some more info?.
CL - Women of Color ..
Only time will tell. It could be that he's just pulling back a bit since you spent so much time together at first, or it could be he's deciding he doesn't want to pursue this further. It will become evident over the next week or so, I'd imagine but I know how hard it is to sit tight with uncertainty like that. But doing so (let him contact you) is your best bet. Hang in thereI hope things work out..
Wednesday? Wait... You mean... Yesterday?I agree with pursuing your own life and not slowing it down or neglecting it for ANYONE, NO MATTER WHAT... That will not only keep your life fulfilling on it's own but make you a more desirable person. This is just side advice. I don't know what's going on with the guy and if he hasn't talked to you since yesterday I wouldn't fret. Sounds like you may be taking the relationship (thru Match.com) too fast though, and by that I don't mean meeting one another's parents too soon, I mean placing expectations on him and the relationship (thru Match.com) and making assumptions before you get to know him very well...
After a month you ae meeting each others families...what the heck. that is way to fast and hanging out 4 times a week in the begining is to much. And when guy friends do a surprise B-day thing for thier friends it's an all nighter most of the time. Dont assume nothing. Specially when they are single. You need to relax and do nothing. Find something for you to do other than worry if it's over.
I do not think it's over but I could be wrong. Iam not a guy nor an I him. Just wait to see if he calls. he may feel bad about not calling you when he said he would. Men hate to dissapoint us...