Your question was: Met my b-friend on Match.com, just found out 7 months later he still on.What do I do??.
Leave him alone for now. You have been on 3 dates (that does not make a relationship) it is too early to know "the pattern" that might be built up.He has a life, things going on that doesn't have anything to do with you, and you should have one that doesn't include him...continue your life just like before he came into it. Chill out and take things as they come. If he doesn't call or get in touch with you in a few days then maybe drop him a line to say "Just wanted to say hi" then leave it alone...
I'm a big believer in letting the guy make the moves initially, and I would consider this the initial stages. If he has been doing the asking out, I would just let him continue doing this.All good advice from the other postersit hasn't been that long. I think it can be more attractive to be a little elusive in the beginning, to not be so available. You know, happy and enthusiastic to hear from him, but maybe unavailable sometimes, including emailing and texting.Relaxyou're doing fine. I think it's quite auspicious that you went out with him on V Day. Most men are terrified of this holiday so early in a dating (online dating with Match.com) relationship...
ITA about being elusive..
Just think ladies...how would you feel if a man you liked liked you immediately, was very available and you knew exactly how he felt and you knew you had him early..
You would probably lose interest....get a little freaked out....or be just plain bored..
Men feel the same. They need a little chase, a little fun, a little of "not knowing" exactly how you feel, what you are doing, thinking, etc. At least in the beginning..
Being hard to get adds spice, fun, play and sexiness..
I read some new dating (online dating with Match.com) advice. She said do NOT tell him what you are doing during the day...let him wonder. It loses it's mystery. So true!.