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My first question is: Match.com I have an account. I don't remember name used or password. please send info so I can join..

My next question is: So I am dating (online dating with Match.com) someone new. We went one two dates only. The first one was on Tuesday last week. We had an amazing time getting drinks and on the date using Match.com he asked me to pick any place I wanted for our next date.. he called me the day after and then the day after, On thursday we spoke and he said hed be free to go out whenever I wanted bc he liked me and wanted to c me whenever I could. Then we had our second date using Match.com on saturday.

After our date using Match.com sat, he called me sunday..then Monday comes and he doesnt call, only texts..andtoday he didnt call....he texted me saying he is getting dinner w his dad but he thinks ill like the place hes going and wants to take me...then I text him about some place we talked about before for cool drinks and he says that place is so cool and he wants to take me.. however.. he still hasn't asked me for a day yet... we went out on saturday and it's already almost wednesday..isnt that a while to wait to ask me out considering he had the "best time" he said.Now.. we had a great time and he keeps mentioning in texts about the places he wants to go w me and he really seems to like me from the two datses..but the thing that bothers me is that today is tuesday..and he didnt even ask me out for a specific day this week and I dont want to just wait around and have him ask me out on Friday for sat bc I want to make plans and I want to schedule other things with people but really want to c him and dont wanna cancel plans.

But tonight is tues night and he prob will ask at the earliest wed if even...when we spoke on the phone on sunday he said he wanted to c me before the weekend and how he was dying to c me..so I dont get why he wouldn't try to book my tim a little more in advance..,,, so what is he waiting for..is he just gonna ask me that day! I like to plan my time but I dont wanna just wait..we both said we dont play games.. I'm sure he can be busy but how busy is he that he cant ask me out for a day ? Why is he not calling all of a sudden?..

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Your question was: Match.com I have an account. I don't remember name used or password. please send info so I can join..

<<and he didnt even ask me out for a specific day this week and I dont want to just wait around and have him ask me out on Friday for sat bc I want to make plans and I want to schedule other things with people but really want to c him and dont wanna cancel plans. I dont wanna be too pushy and I want to see when and what he will choose or decide to see me....

So make plans and do NOT cancel them.  It will show him that you actually have a life and that if he wants to make plans with you, he needs to make a little more effort.  But if you a) do not make plans with friends and wait on him - you could wind up sitting at home alone on Friday and Saturday night or b) sit around and wait for him and he calls on Thursday to make plans with you - you look like you are a loser with no life just waiting around on him to fill up your social calendar or c) make plans with friends and then cancel to go out with him - you look like a cruddy friend to your friends and show him that you are likely to be his beck and call girl - dumping people whenever he says dump..

It's been TWO DATES.  This is not a relationship (thru Match.com) yet.  Yes, you like him.  Super.  He seems to like you.  But you teach people how to treat you so if you show him that you are a doormat, he'll treat you like one.  And if you start treating your friends like crap, canceling plans with them just because some guy calls and makes a "better offer", you'll soon find out you don't have many friends left either..

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Comment #1

Good point.Maybe he just doesn't realize that I like to plan..maybe hes' a last minute kind of planner person..ugh..ill wait I guess. I hate that.... I do have a valid pnt tho right, he should ask a little before..and be more specific. is the fact that he hasn't called in two days when he did in the beginning a bad sign or a sign that hes busy haha bc the two days he didnt call was weekday work daysthanks for your help..

Comment #2

He could be waiting to see if you initiate a date/call to make sure you are into him..just likeyou are waiting for him to initiate a date/call.  Try to get away from the texting...too impersonal and easier to forget about you.  You can call and say that you wanted to know if he was going to take you to XYZ restaurant this weekend as it sounded really nice...

Comment #3

Last time, I remember he called me and he let me choose place and I said when and he said whenever I wanetd so I said sat last time..so I chose last time..and on sunday when he called me he asked how my weeek looked and I said not sure yet I havent made many plans yet..soo why should I ask him again for the day. can he really not ask me out for a day? you dont think saturday to a day past wed or thurs is a long time if he did have fun on our last date?..

Comment #4

He has a life - that's why he's busy.  You should also have a life.  You had one before you met this guy and you should continue to have one now that you have met him.  No, he hasn't called but he has communicated with you.  If you don't like texting or just would prefer he call, then ask him to give you a call when he has a chance or explain to him that you're not a big texter.  And if he does call last minute and you do have plans (which you should), then you can tell him that you like to make plans earlier.  But don't expect him to read your mind.  You will be disappointed every time..

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Comment #5

Well yes you do want to make specific plans... Not all guys are big callers. But if you like to plan and don't want to always be last minute that is something you should communicate, not in an accusatory way but as just letting him know about you and what you like.

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Comment #6

Texting, email - yes, too impersonal and easy to misunderstand someone's intent.  Calling is best. Take a chance.

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Comment #7

I think you meant this for the original poster...

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