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<<and he didnt even ask me out for a specific day this week and I dont want to just wait around and have him ask me out on Friday for sat bc I want to make plans and I want to schedule other things with people but really want to c him and dont wanna cancel plans. I dont wanna be too pushy and I want to see when and what he will choose or decide to see me....
So make plans and do NOT cancel them. It will show him that you actually have a life and that if he wants to make plans with you, he needs to make a little more effort. But if you a) do not make plans with friends and wait on him - you could wind up sitting at home alone on Friday and Saturday night or b) sit around and wait for him and he calls on Thursday to make plans with you - you look like you are a loser with no life just waiting around on him to fill up your social calendar or c) make plans with friends and then cancel to go out with him - you look like a cruddy friend to your friends and show him that you are likely to be his beck and call girl - dumping people whenever he says dump..
It's been TWO DATES. This is not a relationship (thru Match.com) yet. Yes, you like him. Super. He seems to like you. But you teach people how to treat you so if you show him that you are a doormat, he'll treat you like one. And if you start treating your friends like crap, canceling plans with them just because some guy calls and makes a "better offer", you'll soon find out you don't have many friends left either..
Good point.Maybe he just doesn't realize that I like to plan..maybe hes' a last minute kind of planner person..ugh..ill wait I guess. I hate that.... I do have a valid pnt tho right, he should ask a little before..and be more specific. is the fact that he hasn't called in two days when he did in the beginning a bad sign or a sign that hes busy haha bc the two days he didnt call was weekday work daysthanks for your help..
He could be waiting to see if you initiate a date/call to make sure you are into him..just likeyou are waiting for him to initiate a date/call. Try to get away from the texting...too impersonal and easier to forget about you. You can call and say that you wanted to know if he was going to take you to XYZ restaurant this weekend as it sounded really nice...
Last time, I remember he called me and he let me choose place and I said when and he said whenever I wanetd so I said sat last time..so I chose last time..and on sunday when he called me he asked how my weeek looked and I said not sure yet I havent made many plans yet..soo why should I ask him again for the day. can he really not ask me out for a day? you dont think saturday to a day past wed or thurs is a long time if he did have fun on our last date?..
He has a life - that's why he's busy. You should also have a life. You had one before you met this guy and you should continue to have one now that you have met him. No, he hasn't called but he has communicated with you. If you don't like texting or just would prefer he call, then ask him to give you a call when he has a chance or explain to him that you're not a big texter. And if he does call last minute and you do have plans (which you should), then you can tell him that you like to make plans earlier. But don't expect him to read your mind. You will be disappointed every time..
Well yes you do want to make specific plans... Not all guys are big callers. But if you like to plan and don't want to always be last minute that is something you should communicate, not in an accusatory way but as just letting him know about you and what you like.
Texting, email - yes, too impersonal and easy to misunderstand someone's intent. Calling is best. Take a chance.
I think you meant this for the original poster...