Your question was: Match.com anyone used it/using it?.
If he said those things to her he is either involved with her and is lying to you...or he is lying to both of you...
I agree, he is playing the feild with both of you..
I think you meant this for the original poster...
Regardless of the fact that you are there and she is far away, he's told you he still loves her and will still talk to her. If that is unacceptable to you in a committed relationship, then it's time to end it. He likes her flirting with him. He likes seeing her half-naked. Basically he's having an emotional affair with her. If the roles were reversed and you were texting an ex and sending half naked pictures of yourself to an ex, he'd be ok with that? I think not..
His behavior would be unacceptable to me, inappropriate and a deal breaker. You will have to decide what you can and can't live with and go from there. .
Reading material to consider:.
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis.
Do Not Talk To, Touch, Marry, or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs by Nailah Shami.
Thank you for the great advice! I know what I have to do!.
It really hurts but I deserve better then this!.
I agree, this does not sound like a trustworthy man!.