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My first question is: Match.com anyone used it/using it?.

My next question is: I really need some advice on this I have no Idea what to think. I have been dating (online dating with Match.com) this guy for about 8 months now and it has been amazing! He is everything I like for in a guy. Three months ago he moved to Alaska because he's in the Coast Guard, so we decided to take a break; but he called me about two months ago saying he really wanted me to come and visit. Well, I've been in Alaska with him for about a month now and he seems different..more distant and doesn't kiss and hug me as much or say I love you as much as he used too. I was looking through he's phone one day and saw tons of texts from his ex that he dated for two years. There was pictures of her half naked and she was saying how much she loves him and calling him baby and stuff.

I asked him about it and he said he still loved her and would still talk to her but that he loved me and would never get back together with her.  And that being with her was a thing of the past. I don't know what to do or think. Is he just lying to me so I won't leave? I just don't think it's normal. If he doesn't care for her in that way.. then why is he talking to her like their dating?  He hasn't seen her in a really long time cause she lives far away, but still..it bothers me.

~Confused..

Comments (6)

Your question was: Match.com anyone used it/using it?.

If he said those things to her he is either involved with her and is lying to you...or he is lying to both of you...

Comment #1

I agree, he is playing the feild with both of you..

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Comment #2

I think you meant this for the original poster...

Comment #3

Regardless of the fact that you are there and she is far away, he's told you he still loves her and will still talk to her.  If that is unacceptable to you in a committed relationship, then it's time to end it.  He likes her flirting with him. He likes seeing her half-naked.  Basically he's having an emotional affair with her.  If the roles were reversed and you were texting an ex and sending half naked pictures of yourself to an ex, he'd be ok with that?  I think not..

His behavior would be unacceptable to me, inappropriate and a deal breaker.  You will have to decide what you can and can't live with and go from there. .

Reading material to consider:.

Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis.

Do Not Talk To, Touch, Marry, or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs by Nailah Shami.

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Carrie..

Comment #4

Thank you for the great advice! I know what I have to do!.

It really hurts but I deserve better then this!.

Thank you!..

Comment #5

I agree, this does not sound like a trustworthy man!.

,..

Comment #6


This question was taken from a support group/message board and re-posted here so others can learn from it.

 

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