Your question was: I've talked with lady on match.com and I asked for one wish.She said I can make yu have that wish wi.
"We are done" and a second email last week saying "Continued communication is not the best thing for her and she wants me to respect her privacy." Both of those indicate to me we are, in fact, done. it is as plain as the nose on your face. You are done.
Her profile is still up, and she appears to be checking it regularly which indicates to me she hasn't gotten into a serious enough relationship (thru Match.com) to take it down what this means is she is still looking and not interested in you.
What you are seeking is closure and you have to accept the fact that you will most likely not get it. For whatever reason she changed her mind, there is nothing you can do about it..
Sorry, but chalk this up to experience, do not visit her profile anymore, move on and find another lady that wants to be with you. There are hundreds out there..
Good luck to you.
Powered by CGISpy.com.
My next door neighbor.
Wants to ban all guns.
THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.
Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.
Them with my guns..
Sad to say she does not want you to call or text or anything...walk away with your head held high...trust me there is something better out there for you. Let her remember that day you had fun and not the guy who wont leave get the hint that ts done..
The thing that I should have added to this but didn't is that she's got a couple of things of mine she told me she was going to return and hasn't yet. That makes me wonder if we're really done...
Have her mail your stuff ASAP so you can move ASAP. Do not meet up with her if that is at all possable. A guy broke it off with me after a couple m onths and I got my stuff back with in days!!!!! you dont need the excuse for her to use what you feel for her against you just because she has your stuff...
From the tone of her texts it sounds like she's annoyed with you so she probably just doesn't want to deal with the hassle of returning your stuff right now. I would not assume it means she's feeling ambivalent about it being over..
I would not continue to bug her about your stuffjust let it go and move on. .
He needs to gethis stuff back...that way there are no open doors for her to call and say hey you want your stuff and vise versa. It ends all together. I have seen it and it doesnt help on either end to have left over baggage in other places...
I disagree. You can't force another person to do anything they don't want to do. Using the stuff as an excuse to continue to contact her will just annoy her further, but more importantly, the continued contact will keep him from moving on..
Now, if he hadn't asked for his stuff back already, I'd have different advice but he already did and she's not doing anything about it. So what good is it going to do to ask her again?.
Unless the stuff is irreplaceable family heirlooms, he needs to just let it go and consider it part of the cost of dating. "Lovely parting gifts" as they said in an episode of Sex and the City, LOL!.
You do have a point....I have just seen it to wear some weeks down the road where they call to get the stuff out. Yes it is the cost of dating. LOL I love that movie even though was never into the series. I think one more try to get his stuff back to say look I would like my stuff back end it and have her mail it. I guess I see women play more games when it comes to that stuff then men. And his text should say I want my stuff back mail it here or drop it off here. thats it!!!!!! I am one to never but never leave anything again...even when they say ...you can leave that here. I dont think so..........I didnt fall off the truck yesterday....OK maybe I did but it was the whiskey not because I am blonde. LOL..
I'd venture to say that the two of you are done and she will keep the items you have given her unless you ask for them. Unless they are valuable in some way and not like a toothbrush..then buy yourself a new one..
If she didnt tell you that anything was wrong or that you did anything to hurt her then she has simply just changed her mind about you. Why is it that people love to read into things and assume that the guy or the girl is scared when that is usually b.s.?.
Anyway, move on...
Hi I81morex, How long ago did you meet this lady and how many dates did you go on? I am confused on how you state she was scared of the feelings she was having? How do you know she was scared, did she tell you she was scared? We can all have a great amount of chemistry at the beginning because we are excited in going out with someone new and once we get to know the person more, or notice things we aren't crazy about the chemistry can die immediately. This happened to me recently with a man I just met. I was all excited and felt great chemistry together. As I got to know him more on the phone I thought wait a minute, some things did not sound right, my chemistry went out the window pretty fast. I would sugget you respect this lady, let her go and be. If you had just met her, I don't know what type of valuables she may have of yours, if it's something that you can replace, let it go.
There are many other women out there on the on-line dating (online dating with Match.com) sites and I am sure their is someone out there who would want to be with you just as much as you want to be with her. Move on and don't wait for her because she's not coming back, especially if she's not called in three weeks. I know it's hard when we want to be with a particular person..
Yes it's better to move on - look at profiles other than hers and set up a few dates. Good luck.
'...I just think she got really scared of the feelings she was having.'.
It is sadly pretty obvious that she's finished your liaison and moved on with her life a while ago; IMHO, noone is ever scared of their feelings. Having strong feelings for someone is not scary in the slightest. It's wonderful, exhilarating and people follow up on those, not run away from them, EVER. 'Scared of his/her feelings' usually stands in for, if used by an abandoned party, 'it is too painfull to deal with the truth of him/her not wanting me'...
She just changed her mind....if she was truly scared of her feelings she would have bolted in the begining or never went out with him. I am scared of m feelin PLEASE shes a woman.....we have feelings all over the place.... we are the origanal bi polor with out med LOL..
'...I just think she got really scared of the feelings she was having.'.
It is sadly pretty obvious that she's finished your liaison and moved on with her life a while ago; IMHO, noone is ever scared of their feelings. Having strong feelings for someone is not scary in the slightest. It's wonderful, exhilarating and people follow up on those, not run away from them, EVER. 'Scared of his/her feelings' usually stands in for, if used by an abandoned party, 'it is too painfull to deal with the truth of him/her not wanting me'. >>.
I agree - the only people who 'get scared' of their 'feelings' usually aren't good relationship (thru Match.com) material. Who wouldn't want to be with someone who makes them feel good? When a person is in a good place emotionally - they attract GOOD things. I never saw anyone get scared of GOOD stuff unless they weren't prepared to have it..
I have a different view in light of what I recently experienced. I still have feelings for a guy, but will not communicate with him because everytime I do he turns around and hurts me....seemingly on purpose. So why would I reach out to him now? All he has done is hurt me when I do and believe me...I have only communicated with him because he encouraged me to do so. Otherwise I have not called him, emailed him, texted him to bother him in any way since the summer. I don't know what this guy wants from me and I actually feel like he was just playing a cruel game because he thinks I betrayed his trust. On one hand he helped me through some issues (I appreciate it immensely), so why turn around and try to hurt me now? I don't understand. .
He did have some trust issues with me, which I addressed and allowed my life to be an open book to show him that he could, in fact, trust me. But I guess it wasn't enough. He used "tough love" to get me to see the error of my ways - it worked and I am thankful. But doesn't there come a point in time where I stop being put under a microscope and he comes forward and is honest with me about who he is? He hasn't done that yet. I closed the book for now because I feel that it is now his turn to come clean with me about a few things - it's only fair. I am still trust worthy but now he needs to be "honest." If he doesn't plan on doing so then he needs to just let me go so I can move on with my life. I will not hang around and "try" to get him to love me. If he doesn't, he doesn't - I understand and that is why I told him he was free to walk away when I did tell him "I love you" over three months ago..
I have finally moved past the anger and depression phases of healing and am starting to feel really good now even though it doesn't sound like it. The funny thing is that I still "love him" but the hurt isn't there anymore. I find myself worried about him now. I saw him the other day and he looked a little out of sorts and now I find myself wondering if he is okay. Does that make any sense? The only way I can describe it is that I feel like I can love him whether he is in my life or not. Weird. Is that real love? ..