Your question was: Is online dating safe? Like using match.com?.
To have a romantic relationship (thru Match.com) that is real a) the feelings have to be mutual b) you both decide it's worth it to do a long-distance relationship..
If I were you I would just enjoy the friendship for now. He said that he has a lot going on emotionally and a relationship (thru Match.com) is right for him at this time. That is very understandable and it sounds like he is looking out for the both of you by being honest. Cant ask for more than that. So enjoy what you do have, take things light and just have fun. Try not to focus on the future so much and just enjoy living in the moment because that is all you have control over anyway...right?.
Good luck with what ever the two of you decide...
"I have it in the back of my head that he really does have strong feelings for me and he is just afriad to express them AGAIN becuase of the fact that hes moving and hes afriad it wont work. ".
Try to not assume something that he is not saying. If he is telling you it is a sexual relationship (thru Match.com) then make sure you are okay with JUST that and nothing more otherwise you could be setting yourself up for a big disappointment..
If you can find out more about how he feels about you...then try to..before you have sex with him. You can ask him if he would just have a sexual relationship (thru Match.com) with someone who he KNEW felt more but he didnt reciprocate..so you can see how or what he could do to you too..
You could take a chance but, I dont understand why he turned it around on you. One conversation he would be willing to do anything to make it work and then the next minute he doesnt want to start a relationship (thru Match.com) right now with you. That's a red flag. Is it possible that he is dating (online dating with Match.com) someone else?.
So the next night he calls and says hes so glad we were both honest about our feelings for eachother, but he didnt want to start a realtionship right now, becuase theres so much that is going on with him right now emotionally (which is true) and he doesnt want to hurt me. what he is telling you here is that he was glad to get the emotions out in the open but now he is sorry for saying it and does not want to lead you on in case he decides he does not want to carry it further. Take this as honest and that he does not want a serious relationship (thru Match.com) with you..
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My next door neighbor.
Wants to ban all guns.
THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.
Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.
Them with my guns..
This is what I get....yes he cares for you very much. he is moving far awy. This might be just as confussing for him. But listen to him he says it is not the right time. And diont do the FWB without thinking it through. There are no strings in those things and if he finds someone else knowing how you feel you will be hurt.
Ya know I have a guy I dated for about 3 months. His daughter has had a rough time with a few things. Her mom, his wife, passed when she was 18 months old and her step mom wasnt very nurturing. So when she founs out through a neighbor that her her dad had a GF she just kinda went into a depression. So we called it quits but have remained the best of friends and at some point may date using Match.com again.
I have at this point have been dating (online dating with Match.com) someone for about 18 months off and on FWB he is and it is what it is. Stay friends with this man you never know. But keep you life open to others...