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My first question is: I don't understand how 'hide profile' and 'who's viewed me' on Match.com work...?.

My next question is: Hey guys! Right well i've been txtin a girl for a while! And decided to tell her I liked her last night and see how she felt about me! She said she liked me aswell and thanked me for bein straight with her.    So we're goin to the cinema on friday! But I have never been on a cinema date! I really don't know what to do durin the movie! Should I hold her hand, put my arm around her?? Or even kiss her if the moments right? I dont want to be too forward for a first date using Match.com but I dont want to act like we're just mates! I'd really appreciate your advice!.

Oh an while I'm here another question for the ladies! Do you prefer a guy kissing you during the date using Match.com spontaneously or asking if he can kiss you as you part? Just a curiosity! So do you prefer the spontaneous approach or the romantic question?Thanks in advance..

Comments (5)

Your question was: I don't understand how 'hide profile' and 'who's viewed me' on Match.com work...?.

Go with what feels comfortable and don't rush things.  Something to remember - some people really like to watch the movie with no talking, so play this all by ear.  I know that it is hard to read people, but if your girl doesn't want to hold hands etc., she will probably just pull back.  Especially if she likes things straight forward..

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When it comes to the kiss questions.  Both are really good.  For the first kiss, I like to be asked, but after that the spontaneous thing works best..

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Good luck on your date..

Kristie.

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Comment #1

"I really don't know what to do durin the movie! Should I hold her hand, put my arm around her?? Or even kiss her if the moments right? I dont want to be too forward for a first date using Match.com but I dont want to act like we're just mates! I'd really appreciate your advice!".

You should do what feels right.  That feeling comes from being in the moment.  Are you someone who is naturally affectionate?  If you are naturally affectionate with your dates then do what you usually do.  Hand holding during the movie is nice.  Kisses are great too! hehehe.  Some women dont like being kissed on the first date using Match.com - I do..

"Do you prefer a guy kissing you during the date using Match.com spontaneously or asking if he can kiss you as you part? Just a curiosity! So do you prefer the spontaneous approach or the romantic question?".

I like both approaches.  However, when I have kissed a man I have done it spontaneously...

Comment #2

As the others have said, do what feels right in the hand holding/arm around her department but I suggest NOT kissing her during the movie.  First, you don't know yet how she is with public displays of affection.  Holding someone's hand in public is pretty universally acceptable, sucking face it often NOT acceptable - especially in a movie theater and on a first date.  But seriously, you'll probably be able to tell pretty easily what to do - if her hands are in her lap the entire time or clasped, don't try to hold her hand.  But if she rests her arm on the armrest or seems to be leaving her hand out for you to take, go for it.  Second, it's generally awkward to kiss someone in a public movie theater with others around.  Just cool your jets because there will be plenty of time to kiss NOT in the movie theater..

As for the kissing question or just spontaneous - again, play it by ear.  Chances are she'll give you indications if she is open to kissing you.  Asking can be sweet but it also turns some women off.  Just in the moment can be fun but it turns other women off.  Yes, confusing, but it's just there is no universal answer so you have to go with how you feel it at the time..

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Comment #3

No offence to the women here, but most women don't know much about what a guy should do on a date, or when to kiss. There's a lot of psychology involved in this.

Here's a knowledgable guy's advice for you:.

First of all, what were you thinking taking her out to the cinema for a date?? next time, take her somewhere where you can talk to her.

As for kissing and kino escalation:.

Anchoring: the idea of anchoring is that when you touch her when she feels something positive, she will associate you with the positive emotion. Try to touch her when she's feeling a positive emotion, or when you give her a compliment (microloop theory).

Since it's a date, you can start with a hug when you meet her. if she doesn't seem to be enjoying the hug, push her away, and be like "ok that's enough" (not in a serious tone). Actually just push her off when hugging her the first time no matter what happens she'll want you to hug her more next time.

 The idea on.

Ok this is taking too long I'm just gonna give you the compressed version of everything:.

-start with hug+compliment and push her off.

-making fun of her is ok, just don't be too offensive.

-take her hand to the movie theather and squeeze it. If she doesn't squeeze back, be like "ok that's enough" and push her hands off you.

-What type of movie your watching? don't touch her on sad parts of the movie, touch her on happy/funny parts of the movie,.

-"accidently" brush legs for a second.

-do this a few times, than brush legs on purpose  .

-this post is too long I'll just skip to the kiss.

Go outside.

Put both hands on both of her shoulders and check her body signals + stare into her eyes.

Validate her and go for the kiss if she gives the correct body signals, if you want a kiss that "seems" spontaneous.

- if you want to play it safe be like "do you want to kiss me?" if she says yes then go for it if she says maybe then be like "let's find out" and go for it if she says no then be like "me neither. I was just wondering".

Phew long post!.

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Comment #4

OK, ummm.  Aren't you the guy who said you have no clue about women and asked a ton of questions before?  And now you are the authority of how to treat women on a date? .

While I agree with the fact that he shouldn't be going to the movies on a first date using Match.com because it's better to go somewhere they can talk, I disagree with pushing her off, making fun of her and the whole kiss scenario.  As a WOMAN, all of that would be very much a turn off to me.  Everything you suggested is very juvenille and not romantic at all..

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Comment #5


This question was taken from a support group/message board and re-posted here so others can learn from it.

 

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