Your question was: I can not find the Match.com website.?.
I have not lived with a SO before. Both times I married we moved in about one month prior to the wedding. In the case of the second marriage - had I lived with him before the wedding...there would have not been a wedding. But, attitudes and expectations do change once marital vows have been exchanged. I know I have different expectations of a husband than a bf...so keep that in mind...
I am personally opposed to it. In most cases, it benefits the man far more than the woman. Besides, I like living alone and if I loved a man enough to deal with his morning breath and wash his dirty underwear, I'd want to stand before God and totally commit to him...
Just wanted to let you know we have a "Living Together" board under the Love section, that would be the perfect place to post this.My views on living together are mixed, I've done it before and had it not work out, and I'm currently living with a guy I'm planning on an engagement in the next year with. It depends on a lot of factors - how old you are, how long you've been dating, how you plan on splitting finances, what your expectations are about marriage/the future, and especially both being on the same page about your expectations and hopes for the relationship. It is very different from having a roommate.Here's the board that might best suit you:http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rllivingtoge..
Absolutely! You should live with your bf, soon to be husband for at least a year. You need to see what he is like on his bad days and good days, his flaws. What he is like after you guys have a fight. Is he the type to run off and not come home or is he the type to let some steam off and then apologize. You need to know you man inside out and he should know you the same way. You have to have your fights and see how you feel afterwards, if you get over it and still love eachother and cannot live without one another, then you know it is true love and he is a keeper.
I do think that it is a good idea to live with someone before you get engaged or married, just so you know what you are getting into. If you are not engaged yet, I would strongly recommend that you talk to you bf about marriage and if that is in the cards and if you have a "timeline" for an engagement. Guys get so comfortable living with thier gf, and most of the time, they think well, it's already like we are married, so what is the difference?? If you are serious about marrying your bf, you need to have a serious talk with him about possible engagement. xoxo.
"Seek to understand and you will be understood"..
A romantic situation is very different than a roommate - are you a couple, what are the boundaries, rules, etc. all the way from how do we split the bills to how much time do we spend together and where is this leading? Is this a good idea - again the more communication between the couple about expecations, feelings, fears, goals, etc, the better.