Your question was: I am on match.com and guy winked at me on internet?.
I'd say his behavior was untrustworthy. He says negative things about her .. yet .. he still would want to have dinner with her? He broke an agreement and your trust. He got an ego boost from her attention at your expense. A man who is only thinking of himself puts himself in those compromising positions and not someone to be trusted with your heart because he is only looking out for #1 and is not going to be thinking for two - for the relationship. .
I have had to deal with that myself. The guy thought that buy making himself look like he was someone who women fawned over .. I'd be more inclined to be romantic with him or be seduced by him with those images .. not so .. he already "had" me .. all he did was prove to me that his mind was/is only on himself. What kind of idiot does all of that when he knows he already has the woman? So his story doesnt wash with me. He should have cut it out. All it did was make me want to reach through the screen and crush him with my bare hands..
He still puts himself in compromising positions (all about money and his ego and image there's literally no room for me in his heart and mind because it is only on HIM) and his latest stunt put him on my s**tlist and he burned his bridges with me. Sometimes men get turned on seeing a guy try to pick up their girl I'm not wired that way and I told him that 9 months ago .. did it sink in? NOOO. I'd never trust him around women .. not necessarily cuz he'd sleep with them .. but he'd walk all over me to get an ego boost or a thrill by putting himself in compromising positions. He's proven that about himself. It's too late for him to change that image in my mind. He kept doing it ...so do yourself a favor colleen2008, drop him...
Yes the trust has been broken. I do feel hurt about what he did to me. He did apologize to me and I do realize that he did go to get his ego stroked and to hang out...he never goes out and does anything because he really doesn't have any guy friends to hang out with. I am not making excuses for him but this was most likely his thinking. I am willing to move on and not just dump or get rid of him..it's not like he cheated on me. But I will not forget it too. ..
I think it's good to let someone learn from their mistake and hopefully they wont repeat it again. .
However I would just be so pissed lol Because sure, people can be dense but THAT dense, I dunno.. I mean, when can any guy ever think it's appropriate to take another female out to a meal *after work* and not tell their gf first. ..