Your question was: How much is a dating website like match.com?.
Why on earth would you text him at work to try and have a conversation that should have waited until you were together and it could have been talked about calmly and rationally? You are driving him nuts with all your texting, you are acting very childish, it a wonder he has not blocked your texts, I would have. You are coming off as very desperate and needy, a real turn off for most men. You need to get a life of your own outside of your bf. Dont be surprised if he breaks it off with you..
I hope this is a lesson learned for you, good luck.
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My next door neighbor.
Wants to ban all guns.
THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.
Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.
Them with my guns..
You expect the same treatment from him whether or not he is stressed - romance, cards and thoughtfulness. He doesnt agree. Right now all he is doing is taking care of himself. He's looking out for #1 and I suggest you do the same. If you want that type of attention regardless of life's circumstances...this is not your guy...
You DO need to chill out with the texts. That would drive anyone nuts, and as yankee said it can be a turn off for many men. On top of that, you are texting him when he is at work. He will think that you do not respect the fact that he's at work and you are needy. Texting him to ask him why he was not replying made things worse.
I have to add that the things you were texting would have been better dealt with face-to-face..
You need to STOP contacting him for a while and let him contact you. If he realises that you are busy with your time, and not texting him for what seems like 24/7 he just might change his attitude.
CL - Women of Color ..
I really don't think you should be having these discussions over text messaging. When you're talking to somebody about what you want out of the relationship, the tone of voice that you use is very important. When you text something, they have no idea what tone of voice you're using, and it's easy to assume the worse.I still think his reaction was over-the-top though. You brought up an issue that you had with him, and he got defensive. It escalated into a fight. Okay, that happens to most couples from time to time.
What I don't understand is that it's been a few days, and he's STILL holding a grudge over it. In every relationship, there are going to be things the other person does or doesn't do that disappoint you. It's important to be able to feel like you can bring up these issues. If he is so sensitive that he can't accept any criticism, you may as well end the relationship (thru Match.com) right now. It's not going to work if you can't talk to him about things when there are problems in the relationship...