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My first question is: How do I get back on the UK Yahoo personals sight? Match.com comes up and does not allow access to Y.

My next question is: Hello all , I have a question. I was out this past week end and got two numbers from two very diffrent Girls. One was 25 and kind of stuck up. The other had a pretty good buzz going ( beer from the bottle kind a girl ). So any way they both gave me there number and seemed to be intrested in me. However I have called them both and neither one of them has called me back.

Is there a tick to getting a date using Match.com or a least a call back after breaking the ice and getting the digits. All help is welcome and appricated...

Comments (31)

Your question was: How do I get back on the UK Yahoo personals sight? Match.com comes up and does not allow access to Y.

How long ago have you called? If it has only been a few days, I don't see a need to panic. People have things going on with their lives (work, school, etc.). It's either that or they are not interested..

I have to say that the likelihood of either one of them calling back was not great to begin with, though. You said one was 'stuck up' and the other was 'buzzed'..

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #1

"They are def "attention whores" lol"Why are you lol-ing?There's nothing funny about this. I really hate it when a girl give me her number and then doesn't pick up when I call, and so do all other guys.Seriously, what kind of sadistic, demented and twisted **** is this? Why get our hopes up like that? Really, that is NOT COOL AT ALL!.

Edited 2/13/2009 2:02 am ET by cp85..

Comment #2

Here's what I do in this situation.I call the first time asking for her to call back to arrange a time and place to meet up. If they don't call back within 48 hours, I call 1 last time and say "Susanne/Becky/Whatever-her-name-is)! It's (my name). I guess you don't want to meet up. Whatever, you had your chance. *click*" On the 5 occasions I've done this, 3 of them called back and begged my forgiveness, and eventually. I hooked up with 2 of them...

Comment #3

"Susanne/Becky/Whatever-her-name-is)! It's (my name). I guess you don't want to meet up. Whatever, you had your chance. *click*".

This is a really immature message.  Why bother to leave it at all?.

And I loled because 'attention whores' is a funny term. .

Anyways, if you lightened up a little, you might get a couple of the girls to actually pick up the phone for you.  Good luck with that..

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Comment #4

>>Seriously, what kind of sadistic, demented and twisted **** is this? Why get our hopes up like that? Really, that is NOT COOL AT ALL!<<.

You really respond like this just because some girl doesn't pick up the phone? Geez...

>>I really hate it when a girl give me her number and then doesn't pick up when I call<<.

BTW, why do assume that the girl must be at home the first time you call? And if some guy left a "you missed your chance" message for me, THAT would make *me* LOL and then delete the message..

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #5

>>This is a really immature message.  Why bother to leave it at all? <<.

I was thinking the same. I can imagine one of my 15 y o students doing that..

Anyways, if you lightened up a little, you might get a couple of the girls to actually pick up the phone for you..

Good point. .

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #6

Cp85, would you be the man in college asking out anything in  a skirt trying to get laid, per chance? Ehm... a rule? You call a girl only twice lololol? What girl would that be, the one sitting in a pizza place whom you approached hoping she'll fall for the 'friends' line lolol??.

Oh and btw I am totally heartbroken cause at 38.. you sure won't fancy me!! waaaaaaaaaaaah waaaaaaaaaaah waaaaaaaaaaaaaah!! )..

Comment #7

You are right. Attention whoring is serious business and it needs to be taken seriously, especially on the internet. This is a crime that's gone on for far too long! Let's all band together and create a special jail for girls who love attention or who don't return calls from guys they give their number to. I'll petition for some rapists and child molesters to receive parole just to make some room for these awful people, or better yet we can just have them methodically exterminated so as to make life better for all the great guys like cp85 whose quality of life is being so devastated by not having sex with them...

Comment #8

<<This is a crime that's gone on for far too long! Let's all band together and create a special jail for girls who love attention or who don't return calls from guys they give their number to. >>.

Maybe we should house them with the men who say they will call and never do as well as the ones who say they really like/love you but end up not wanting a relationship (thru Match.com) with you......

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Toni..

Comment #9

They would deserve one another! There will always be members of either gender who ruin it for the rest.....

Comment #10

LOL!  Everyone has a good point.  Luv the humor.  Funnynesss..

Comment #11

>>You are right. Attention whoring is serious business and it needs to be taken seriously, especially on the internet. This is a crime that's gone on for far too long! Let's all band together and create a special jail for girls who love attention or who don't return calls from guys they give their number to. I'll petition for some rapists and child molesters to receive parole just to make some room for these awful people, or better yet we can just have them methodically exterminated so as to make life better for all the great guys like cp85 whose quality of life is being so devastated by not having sex with them.<<.

I love this post! Now that is my type of humour!.

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #12

Sorry to hear they might be playing games. Stop worring and stop getting numbers in bars...

Comment #13

"This is a really immature message. Why bother to leave it at all?"Because like I said on another thread, the majority of even remotely attractive girls under the age of 30 are irredeemably immature and catty, so a guy has to be immature and catty to get on too; like attracts like.I like to think it puts the fear of God into them. Any girl who's remotely attractive can get a tonne of guys to follow her like a puppy dog and lead them on for weeks at a time to mooch of time, energy, attention, etc.I don't deal with that BS. I used to when I was much younger, but I realized it's like walking circles in the desert. I don't put up with being given the run-around anymore...

Comment #14

"BTW, why do assume that the girl must be at home the first time you call?"Home? What does it matter if she's home? Most people carry and give out their cell phones today. I don't think I've called a house number in years.If they can't call back in 48 hours, then really, they're just wasting my time, and I let them know that...

Comment #15

How old are you? I am 19 years old and if I dont like a guy, I have no problem not giving my number.  I'll just say I am not interested..

"Because like I said on another thread, the majority of even remotely attractive girls under the age of 30 are irredeemably immature and catty, so a guy has to be immature and catty to get on too; like attracts like.".

By your logic, if you are a nice guy then you will attract nice girls.  So just be nice.  If you want immature, catty girls then keep being immature and catty yourself, I guess. .

It sounds like you have no clue who you are as a person.  Once you figure yourself out, you will have the confidence to just be yourself.  You feel like you need to act immature in order to get a girl?  You have to know how stupid that is...

Comment #16

>>Because like I said on another thread, the majority of even remotely attractive girls under the age of 30 are irredeemably immature and catty<<.

This might be the problem. You are going after girls, rather than women, and then complaining about how they act..

I have to wonder why so many of these 'girls' under the age of 30 are immature and catty, at least to you. My friends and I are all under 30 and have never played those kinds of games with guys. I get asked out a lot and a simple, polite "No" when asked for my number works. If a guy throws a fit after hearing 'no' well he is the one with the issue. I WILL NOT lead on someone I know I have no interest in..

All the same, have you considered what YOU could be doing wrong? If you are always finding immature and catty women, then that means that you are looking in the same places and doing the same things over and over again. You can't change anyone but you, and if you want different results you have to try something different..

>>I like to think it puts the fear of God into them. Any girl who's remotely attractive can get a tonne of guys to follow her like a puppy dog and lead them on for weeks at a time to mooch of time, energy, attention, etc.<<.

Then you ARE seeking out immature attention seekers. My 15 y o students would do this. I'm wondering if you're not getting a kick out of 'putting the fear of God' into these girls and having them call you back all apologetic. Good for the ego? Trust me on this - no attractive, intelligent, independent, self-respecting woman wants a man following her around 'like a puppy dog'. That is NOT attractive in a man..

>>I don't deal with that BS. I used to when I was much younger, but I realized it's like walking circles in the desert. I don't put up with being given the run-around anymore.<<.

But you ARE dealing with it. Calling them and leaving immature messages puts you on the same level as these girls. So why complain about them then? NOT dealing with it would be tossing the number and forgetting about it..

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #17

As you suggested in another post about cp85 - I too am wondering what he's really after. Obviously he wants something and his MO isn't working the way he wants it too.  I think he is early to mid 20's and still in college so that explains his own immaturity.

I just find it rather funny that he is working so hard to 'get' these girls he holds in such contempt.  Yes - like attracts like - Seems to me he is attracting exactly the same kind of people he is - immature, catty and shallow. .

To get a better quality date, be a better quality guy first.  Unless he does this, he's well o n his way to being a first class jerk that no good woman will want any part of.

Toni..

Comment #18

>>>How old are you? I am 19 years old and if I dont like a guy, I have no problem not giving my number. I'll just say I am not interested.<<<I'm 23.>>>By your logic, if you are a nice guy then you will attract nice girls. So just be nice. If you want immature, catty girls then keep being immature and catty yourself, I guess.<<<The problem is that "nice girls" (girls who're cute, sweet, but NOT indecisive and immature flakes) are so few and far between, that's it's really a waste of time to go specifically for them, especially since so many are most likely in committed relationships. Why shut myself to 95% of females in my age group for that slim 5%?>>>It sounds like you have no clue who you are as a person. Once you figure yourself out, you will have the confidence to just be yourself.

In other words, I am being myself...

Comment #19

>>>This might be the problem. You are going after girls, rather than women, and then complaining about how they act.<<<Yes I'm going for immature girls, not mature women. I'm 23. I'm attract to the 18-25 range. Very few females in that age range are mature women yet.>>>I have to wonder why so many of these 'girls' under the age of 30 are immature and catty, at least to you.<<<Because they can't help it. Most girls who're remotely attractive are so used to getting their way with guys, with guys following them around and being their friends and offering to take them out and so forth for so long, that their egos get inflated.

The best way to score a girl like this is not to try to live to those expectations, but to shatter them and demonstrate that she has to prove herself to you.I can do that easily on a date, but it's hard to get across on the approach. >>>My friends and I are all under 30 and have never played those kinds of games with guys. I get asked out a lot and a simple, polite "No" when asked for my number works. If a guy throws a fit after hearing 'no' well he is the one with the issue. I WILL NOT lead on someone I know I have no interest in.<<<You do play games.

You would say yes to his offer and allow him the opportunity to prove himself on a date.When he's asking you out, you are playing a game; you're setting up a maze and a minefield for him to traverse. If he wins your game, by saying and doing all the right things at the right time, you will say yes. If he loses your game, you say no...

Comment #20

>>If you didn't play games, you wouldn't say no. You would say yes to his offer and allow him the opportunity to prove himself on a date.Oh please, could you actually read this sentence over again and honestly tell me you're not reaching pretty hard to turn the CL's statement back on her? You're making yourself look like a complete fool, which you tend to do in every thread. You would probably fit in better on askmen.com, here you're asking for advice from women who are generally older and smarter than you and yet you're creating a power struggle because you honestly think you know better than everyone here. I'm 25, not much older than you, and I find your descriptions of how you act with girls and what you expect from dating (online dating with Match.com) just embarrassing. You sound as though you should be in high school...

Comment #21

>>>Oh please, could you actually read this sentence over again and honestly tell me you're not reaching pretty hard to turn the CL's statement back on her?<<<It's really not that hard. It's a pretty easy and rational conclusion to come to.She, you and every single female who reads this plays games with every single guy she talks to. If he wins, he wins her heart and body. If he loses, he doesn't. It's that simple.>>>You're making yourself look like a complete fool, which you tend to do in every thread. You would probably fit in better on askmen.com, here you're asking for advice from women who are generally older and smarter than you and yet you're creating a power struggle because you honestly think you know better than everyone here.<<<I'm not asking for advice.



Edited 2/16/2009 12:34 pm ET by cp85..

Comment #22

If you knew as much as you claim, maybe you'd be receiving better results in your own life - After all, your target market isn't exactly the smartest fish in the sea, is it? Your "I'm always right" attitude is what should be embarrassing, though I imagine it's easier to communicate your thoughts to a message board where you don't actually see the women laughing at you.Edit: I hate to hijack someone else's thread. I'll respond to you elsewhere if necessary, though I feel as though I've gotten my point across and you're either a troll or unwilling to accept that women know more about what women want than a 23 year old kid who is a dating (online dating with Match.com) failure..

Edited 2/16/2009 12:42 pm ET by secretlobster..

Comment #23

I'm a dating (online dating with Match.com) failure? I'm only 23 I've had sex with 11 girls (14 if you count bjs) That's twice as many than most men will have in their lifetime.Granted, I'm not player by a long shot. A player can get a reluctant girl to say yes. I don't waste my time with reluctant girls. For every 1 girl who said yes, there were probably 5 or 6 who said no, and I was just like "whatever." I quickly discard the ones who aren't interested and search out the ones that are. So I'm no player, but I'm no dating (online dating with Match.com) failure.The more you contest my assertions, the more convinced I am right.If there's one thing I've learned, it's that what women say and what they do afterward is the difference between night and day. Girls are notorious for saying they want a nice, sweet, honest guy and then giving head to cheaters and players afterwards..

Edited 2/16/2009 1:01 pm ET by cp85..

Comment #24

>>You do play games. You just admitted it here..

If you didn't play games, you wouldn't say no. You would say yes to his offer and allow him the opportunity to prove himself on a date.<<.

Why am I even bothering with you? That is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard! I say "no" BECAUSE I'M NOT INTERESTED. Pretending to be interested in some random guy when I'm not is playing games. Being up front and honest is not. More importantly, I say no because I'm in a committed relationship.

I'm sure you are the only one who could see 'game playing' in a woman saying 'no'.

Edited because I'm just going to wish you a good night/day (depending on when you read this) and leave this thread alone. This is too weird...

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Do you have any relationship (thru Match.com) or friendship resolutions in '09? Tell us about them!.

Edited 2/16/2009 6:42 pm ET by cl-bajanbeautykei.

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #25

N/M.

Edited 2/16/2009 6:43 pm ET by cl-bajanbeautykei.

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #26

N/M.

Edited 2/17/2009 4:44 am ET by cl-bajanbeautykei.

CL - Women of Color  ..

Comment #27

"Maybe we should house them with the men who say they will call and never do as well as the ones who say they really like/love you but end up not wanting a relationship (thru Match.com) with you....."ROTFL!..

Comment #28

'....I'm only 23 I've had sex with 11 girls (14 if you count bjs)'.

Isn't this just totally hillarious lol?? Help me out here in my old age, how would I say 'died and gone to heaven laughing' in net-speak??..

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Comment #30

You still might. These things are very capricious. Just try not to get too emotionally attached to outcomes at this early juncture.

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