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For those who remember me......

I just wanted to stop in and say hello and thanks to everyone who helped me out at the beginning of the summer. I want to tell you all that in Hindsight.....as always........every one of you that told me my relationship (thru Match.com) was an Unhealthy one, was correct (but you knew that ;-)  )    So thank you. I got myself together rather quickly after that second dumping.

Without going into what happened, just wanted everyone to know that life does go on, it does get better, you just have to believe in yourself..........First and Always!.

My update:.

1)I was chosen in a housing lottery and my kids and I are now in the process of building a three bedroom/two bath Cape style house!  NO MORE RENTAL and I will have my own bedroom and no more trips to the laundry mat (such simple pleasures!) .

2)I am in a very healthy relationship (thru Match.com) for the first time in my young 43 years! He is 37, has full custody of his  daughter, lives about an hour and a half away but works near me (he travels)  We see each other once during the week (usually) and weekends, either here or there. We have not introduced the kids to each other yet. Mine all in highschool, his in Middle school. Will do so when the time is right and we feel the need to spend more time together..

This might seem strange to some of you, but for me...and him...it allows us to grow slowly, builds my trust and keeps it exciting! It has been just over two months....very early stages but I don't have that "gut instinct" telling me something is wrong and I try to overide it. It is just very naturally nice and sweet! And...he is an active listener. Things I told him on date using Match.com two, he remembered at date using Match.com 15. And, after two months, he is still opening my door, car or otherwise, for me..

And, there is no chance for the late night drunken booty calls, or lonely night calls. We plan things and look forward to them. This guy has no "red flag" items lurking...at least not that I have seen and trust me......after the last two guys I have the list and have checked it twice!.

Anyways, I'm back and will be lurking! Hope I can offer some helpful tips as a return favor and get to know some of you new ladies!.

Patty.

PATTY.

~Dare to believe in yourself~..

Comments (4)

Your question was: Hi Everyone...I'm back.

Congrats on both things! .

I'm curious as to why you think it's strange to not have introduced your kids when you've only been dating (online dating with Match.com) for 2 months?  That seems very normal and healthy to me.  I don't think kids should be involved in a relationship (thru Match.com) until it's pretty clear it's serious and headed towards marriage, honestlyso at least 6 months if not longer..

Sheri..

Comment #1

Welcome back.  So glad things are going well - and it's wonderful we were of help to you, and we definitely welcome your help as well.  Sisterhood at it's best!.

,..

Comment #2

Sisterhood.......Between my three best girlfriends here at home and all you on Ivillage I have to say wouldn't make it without ya's.

TGIF~~Thank God I'm Female!!.

Hope all have a great weekend!.

PATTY.

~Dare to believe in yourself~..

Comment #3

Hi,.

I guess I was thinking the wierdness of the distance and all. It's pretty good. I even found the LDR board. I don't know how some of them do it being thousands of miles away. Whatever works I guess!.

Yes, I agree that six months or so is good time to see where the "family" unit would fit in. It would also allow us more time to be together, ie day visits when the kids are home, joint outings, etc.

Thanks, as always, for your input!.

PATTY.

~Dare to believe in yourself~..

Comment #4


This question was taken from a support group/message board and re-posted here so others can learn from it.

 

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