Your question was: Have you ever tried match.com? Anyone you know? How did it turn out?.
He sounds totally immature. I think you can figure out what *I* would do...
Edited 2/28/2008 12:02 am ET by blairbear89..
I know you claim that he's 'mature', but... your description of his is the complete opposite of mature. He sounds like a dick. Are you really willing to be with a guy that doesn't respect your feelings and needs?.
What I would do, is to very clearly and calmly, suggest to him that you'd like him to do z,y,x, b/c you feel c,b,a. And let him learn to respect your needs and feelings. If he's unable to fulfill your request, then he's OBVIOUSLY NOT the kind, nurturing man, that I'm sure you desire.
Just make it very clear cut, how you want to be treated and DEMAND he do that. By demand, I mean, if he doesn't treat you with respect, YOUR GONE!! DONE WITH HIM!! C-YA!!! If you tell him what you want and you let him 'slide' with a few things, you've breached your own request to be respected, and the cycle will continue..
Welcome to the board!!.
You've been dating (online dating with Match.com) for 9 months. I've noticed from experience and from lots of friends that this is a time when a lot of couples really get serious about a future together. He might just be a bit scared. This is normal. Be patient and tolerant. I'm not saying that you should take being mistreated, but we do need to make allowances for the ones we love. We all have a bad day or maybe even a bad week. If his behavior doesn't change, be open about how you feel..
"He might just be a bit scared. This is normal.".
I have to present an opposing opinion. This is not normal. As a couple builds their emotional intimacy and have bonded...he should be feeling GREAT. If he is sensing that the relationship (thru Match.com) is not right for him THEN...he will behave skittish...
If you express yourself the way you know best and he doesnt respond then he is not in tune with you or cares to meet your needs. Since his behavior has been consistent for 3 weeks he just needs a swift kick in his a$$ and a reminder that he is behaving like a louse. If he doesnt respond then say goodbye to him..
You stated that he was Mr. Joe Cool in H.S. and you could remind him that he is not living in his insulated fairy tale academia land anymore. He's in the real world now where there are available men muuuuch cooler than him now who can excite you. Living off the fat of his youth is an indication that he hasn't invested in himself too much over the years...a man who is not real exciting to me. He may use this as leverage in his own mind as justification why he doesnt HAVE to treat any woman correctly...