Your question was: Has anyone ever had any luk on match.com?.
Right now all he is doing is confiding in you...nothing more. His words are only words. Right now you are a rebound. It sounds like they are breaking up and he needs comforting. He needs to talk to a shrink, not you. It is unfair of him to ask you to shoulder his feelings. Okay, he said breaking up was a mistake. let him put his words into motion before you get your hopes up. Some people can live on words and promises...I cant. I am an action person - the words need to match the actions. Promises and words mean nothing to me. A guy who talks but doesnt move on his words is either playing with my head and heart, just a b.s. artist, or someone who doesnt understand what makes me click. You, on the other hand, might be okay with words and promises. I dont think you are doing anything "wrong" by talking to him but dont let it become an emotional affair - let him finish one thing before starting another..
It is very nice that he did visit you today - at least it shows he does care on some level...
You might want to feel bad that he is sooo unhappy. And dont hook up!!!!!! He needs to get out of his marriage before he starts a new relationship. Divorce is very emotional and can be very draining. He wont have it to give you and thats not fair...
The fantasy you are hoping for is highly unlikely to materialize. Its not at all unusual for people to revisit a person from their past that they remember as having made them feel good when they are feeling horrible. It doesn't meant there is deep love there - it simply means that person is in a bad place emotionally and looking to feel better somehow someway. You are that balm for his bad emotions right now. It doesn't meant a damn thing either other than you offer him comfort from very hurtful emotions NOW. He is escaping his pain by talking to you.
That has nothing to do with love for you - it has to do with pain avoidance on his part. Yes, I've been in this situation. It's an extreme rollercoaster - the kind that makes you gut-wrenchingly sick. You see the happily ever after part - what you are conveniently overlooking is the reality. He IS STILL married - not even separated.
If there are kids and property involved. That's just the 'to do' part - I'm not even touching on the emotionally stuff he will have to sort out. And, say you hold his hand through all of this - expecting him to want to marry you finally when it's said and done - and he decides he wants something else. What then?Hon, relationships that go the distance are created by 2 whole hearts - you both have damaged hearts here - and that is a recipe for huge heartache. He is not even close to being ready for a real and intimate relationship (thru Match.com) with you or anyone else.
Be a friend but maintain limits..
The reason he came over and confided in you was not because he is still in love with you and genuinely wants to be with you. He did it because with his bad marriage and impending divorce he is feeling vulnerable and lonely, and it feels safe to confide in an ex-girlfriend because you're someone he had already established and intimacy and comfort with.It does not mean anything more than that...