I think you need to move on, and that means no contact. It's pretty much impossible to be friends with someone when you want more and he doesn't..
It sounds like a shift in your thoughts about him is in order...yes, you may have had all those things in common, etc but the bottom line is, he chose to end it. It wasn't working for him, for whatever reason, which means that you're not right for each other. So every time you start thinking about all the good things, stop yourself and say something like "doesn't matter, he chose to end it which means he's not right for me". It takes some practice but it's very helpful to the moving on process..
Well first of all when you are out with your BF you dont talk to your friends male or not...thats just plain RUDE!! I would be pissed to!!!!.
I am not sure what his illness is/was...but if I were sick I wouldnt be thinking about callin some one on their B-day. I see a lot of you you you...maybe you should let it...but if you want to send a happy b-day...just send happy b-day and nothing more in it...
I really feel for you as I'm in the same situation right now .
It is so difficult, but i've decided to let it go. I am so sad right now..
Thanks ladies for the replies... I sent a quick Happy Bday msg... just left it at that. Want him to know that I still care... but not super over-bearing..
I'm not "hung up" on this guy.... just a string of losers that annoy the crap out of me that I've been going out with... and I miss how well he and I "clicked"..
I do like the idea of when I get those feelings to just remind myself that he chose to end it.... But kinda depressing- reminds me that I wasn't good enough for him. Sucks..
It just means you will be better for some one else..
"But kinda depressing- reminds me that I wasn't good enough for him."I know all of this sucks, however...Try, if you can, to not think of it as you weren't good enough for him...think of it more as you just weren't right for each other...
YEs right now you need complete distance from him - it's the only way to start healing. Start thinking about your gains and losses from the relationship, nurturing yourself, spending time with people you care about , etc. Let it go. The more you try to hold onto something the crazier it makes you and the more the object involved wants to get away.
It hurts now but better now than later when you feel even more entwined.