I think it should be pretty clear to him at this point that you would like to go out with him. If he is really interested in you, then he will find a way to make it happen. I would back off on asking for a while and see if he takes the lead. Whether he is making excuses or is truly busy, there is no point in continuing to suggest things if he is never available. If his schedule is that full and he really wants to see you, he will find a time and let you know. If he is too busy for that, then he was never that interested to begin with.I do think you should find out if he has a girlfriend before proceeding further.
So what if he guesses that you have a romantic interest in him because you've asked that question? You do have a romantic interest in him. You say you don't like game-playing, but if you are not saying what you want to say for fear of him finding out the truth, then I see that as being phony and playing games...
To My Fellow Canadian:You invited him to a concert, offered him a ride home and extended an invitation to a DJ event. He declined. How should you proceed with this? You have to back away. No more moves. You have done all you can do.If he wants to be with you, he will move mountains to be with you. He may be shy but he knows you are interested in him- you have opened the door.Just be your friendly, warm, nice self around him and that's it.
Whatever will be will be, let things unfold they way they were meant to. Good luck with Mr. Eye Candy!..
I think this was one of those situations where I just needed to hear someone else say what was already in my mind; I really hate chasing people but sometimes it's hard to shake the feeling that you aren't doing enough somehow, when really there's such a fine line between doing enough and going overboard. Especially with guys.Thanks for writing back, we'll see how things go with the hands-off approach...
I know how frustrating it can be to like a Co-Worker believe Me. I think You did all You can do and have been really generous about it. Now it is time to take a step back be cordial to Him. If He is interested in getting to know You better it is totally up to Him now You opened the door and there is nothing wrong with that at all I think You are courageous I know how tough and frustrating it can be to get the ball rolling now a days with some Men..
I have a situation myself I like a Guy and I asked about Him to another Girl that works with Him on occasion which I regret doing now She has gotten real catty with Me since the conversation and I have no clue what she may or may have not told Him. So I am taking it a day at a time He is flirting with Me Everytime He sees Me so I have to see what happens now that is all I can really do. I hope something gives soon!.
Question for you: Does HE know it's ok to date using Match.com within the team? He may not, and that may be stopping him.Another thing: So many people say, "I don't like to play games," when dating (online dating with Match.com) is a wonderful way to "play" with someone! Not in a bad way, but in a lighthearted, friendly way. FUN. Yet another: In all these conversations, etc, you two have, you seem to be really nice to him, but, are you flirty with him or do you just talk to him like a friend? There's a definite difference between showing him you're interested in him as a friend, and showing him you are interested in him as a man. He may not even know you're being anything other than nice. I'm not talking about acting like someone or something you are not, but I AM talking about taking you outside of your comfort zone a bit.From what I read of your description of events, and how you presented things here in your post, I'm getting an inkling he has NO idea you're interested in him as anything other than a friend, because none of what you listed is anything I wouldn't do with or ask of any of my platonic friends.What do you think?.
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