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My first question is: GOOD MOVIE IDEA? A 23 year old man Meets a 42 year old woman off MATCH.COM...and the issues that COM.

My next question is: I know this might be stupid questions ..but they bother my mind so I might ask them anyway...

Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times? .

Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?.

Does every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless?.

How can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'?.

How can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'?.

Is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman?.

Can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary?.

Is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'?.

And  why would it 'scare' you if you met that person?.

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...I am trying to find answers to all this since my opinion on all of these seem to change and I would like some input..even though I know there might not be a 'final' answer....

Thank you......

Comments (7)

Your question was: GOOD MOVIE IDEA? A 23 year old man Meets a 42 year old woman off MATCH.COM...and the issues that COM.

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Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times?  Yes.

Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?  Yes.

Does every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless?  Not sure about this one as I had kids before I was 30.  But from what I see on these boards a lot of them are..

How can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'?  See above.

How can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'?  Not when it's happening.

Is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman?  Not sure what you mean by this.

Can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary?  Yes.

Is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'?  Yes.

And  why would it 'scare' you if you met that person?  Absolute true love is scary..

These answers are all my belief's.  I am sure they vary from person to person.  I dont think there are set rules for these.  For example I dont think everyone finds or experiences love at first site.  I dont think you can tell lust from love until you are out of that relationship (thru Match.com) and can look back on it or the lust grows old and wears off, the old hind sight is 20/20 thing..

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Comment #1

Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times? You can have an intense attraction to them.Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?No. You cannot love someone before you truly get to know the depth of their character.does every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless?No.how can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'?I don't think they're related at all.how can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'?Lust can happen right away, it is the feeling that you always want to be near a person, an intense well of emotion, and often Lust is the thing that makes you want to scream "I love you and I want to marry you" in the beginning of a relationship. Love develops over time, I guess the definition includes different things for different people, but for me it's when you've shared countless good times and bad with a person, discovered who they are and what the ugliest part of their personality is, and it's the security that they will always be there for you knowing that you are a team enhancing one another's lives.is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman?I don't know about this one. I've certainly met men who are similar to me, one even called me his "counterpart" but I think it's important to realize that you are a complete individual no matter who you are with. A male does not complete your life, he adds to it.can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary?Why would it be scary? This just sounds like a phrase that young people would use when they are describing how close they feel in interests. Uh, yes it's possible to have a lot in common.is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'?No.

I think at a really good level of happiness, a person will say "he/she is THE ONE" or "he/she is my SOUL MATE" and that's fine for them to use that terminology, but it's sort of like saying "I want to be with you forever" when human beings do not last forever. It's romantic and poetic but it's not really accurate. I don't think there's anything wrong with saying it - I think there IS something wrong with expecting to find the perfect man (soul mate).and why would it 'scare' you if you met that person?I've met someone I feel is very compatible with me, who adds to my life in ways that I cannot give myself, who has some parts of his personality that are opposite mine which makes me think in new ways, and who I've found a very lasting appreciation, connection and love with. I will not use the word "soul mate" simply because I don't believe in the word but maybe a person would call it that. I have NO idea why you are hung up on this word "scary", no it's not scary, why should it "scare" me???..

Comment #2

Interesting questions! Well, here goes.

Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times?    Absolutely..

Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?  I don't know about "love" and the "first sight" seems to be focused on looks and perhaps therefore more lust-driven.  But the guy I'm dating (online dating with Match.com) most often now, I felt like I "knew" him the first moment we talked.  It's like he resonated on a level that appealed to me and he resonates more deeply now. .

Does every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless?  I had kids when I was in my 20s but I get the question.  When I was 35 I had a last minute panic; I had this deep drive and desire to have another child before I couldn't any more.  This partly based on things I'd read, about fertility declining after 35 (and whose to say if those stats would have been accurate as to me) and partly instinctive.  I didn't have any more kids, though.  I just understand the desire..

How can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'?  Well, yes, for me.  I was married and so the 'panic" was all about wanting another child.   .

How can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'?  Yes. .

Is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman?  I'm not sure I understand the question.  My ex shared a lot of my political and social beliefs.  My current guy is different in many ways, but he seems to counterbalance me and our differences keep things interesting. .

Can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary?   Okay, now I get the question.  I don't find myself reflected in a man attractive.  I tend to be liberal and a bit artsy and I am attracted to men who are more conservative.  But that's just me.  I know couples who are very much alike and get along famously.      .

Is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'?  I think that you can "recognize" someone even when you first meet..

And  why would it 'scare' you if you met that person?  Yes, I think love can be "scary" at first, because of that vulnerability in exposing yourself to the guy and then later in worrying that something could happen to the man you love...

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I know this might be stupid questions ..but they bother my mind so I might ask them anyway..can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times? Yes. It can even be much less time than that.Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?I think you can be physically attracted to somebody right away. I think you can even pick on some things subconsciously about the other person that they haven't told you about themselves yet. But the actual love is a bond that takes time to develop. That's just the first step in the development process. And just because you are really attracted to somebody right away is no guarantee that they are a good match for you.

You're going to want to believe you've found the right one whether you have or not. What's important is to make sure you're paying attention to any warning signs. Listen to your gut and your mind. If anything seems at all off, really take the time to consider it. Don't just ignore it.

Also, hold off on having sex for as long as you can.is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman?There's no one perfect person out there, but there are a handful who you could be compatible with. When one of them comes along at the right time, he can feel like your counterpart or your soulmate.can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary?Yes. But in terms of feeling like you have a lot in common, it can work both ways. What I mean is, when you find out you have a lot in common with somebody, you start falling for them. But when you start falling for somebody, you also have a tendency to start noticing everything you have in common with them.

If you've been hurt before, it can be scary to fall in love again and think that your heart may get broken in the end.2. You are moving forward in your life. Settling down with one person is a big change in your life, and change is always scary...

Comment #4

Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times?  yes.

Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?  for some people, yes.

Does every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless? no.

How can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'? the desperate feeling gives it away.

How can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'?  lust is in the loins and love is in the heart and loins - lust doesnt withstand the trials and tribulations that love does.

Is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman? there can be.

Can it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary? are you using the phrase "that it is scary" to mean actually scared or just a figure of speech?  I dont think it is anything to be actually scared of..but I can see using it as a figure of speech..

Is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'? for some people, yes.

And  why would it 'scare' you if you met that person? it shouldnt scare you..

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Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'?Depends. On how you define *LOVE.* NOT being flip here..

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Can you 'fall' for someone you only dated 3 times? Yes you can fall for anyone before you even date using Match.com them.Is there such a thing as 'love at first sight'? Yesdoes every woman get a 'last minute panic' when she is around 30 and single+ childless? ?how can one tell the difference between 'last minute panic' and 'being in love'? Last minute panic is when for like an hour or a day you feel like you want to please HIM/HER by anyway you can. You can't stop thinking about HIM/HER, you feel like your gonna pea your pants when you finally see them. Love is all the time.how can you tell the difference between 'lust' and 'love'? Lust is you want them in bed with you and you can't stop thinking about you and them in bed. Love is where you don't even care about that all the time only when it's around that time. Love is where you want them happy even if it means they arn't with you, you want them happy, you can't do anything without thinking of them 24/7 365!is there such a thing as male 'counterpart' to a woman? Yescan it be that you have so much in common with a person that it is scary? Ofcourse!is there such a thing as a 'soul mate'? Yup!and why would it 'scare' you if you met that person? It wouldn't scare you, you would feel beyond comfortable with this person and they would be beyond comfortable with you. It would feel like you've known this person since before you were born and not want to leave them and you would probably be right next to them the whole time your around them...

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