The irritating thing about men, and often people in general, is that they are easily manipulated by emotions such as loss. When you're around he doesn't know what he wants but as soon as you leave it becomes clear. Well, try being with him again and waiting for that fear of losing you to go away, he'll go right back to being unsure.I hope you don't take his actions as an affront against you; it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Many guys get scared of the word "relationship", it just means they shouldn't bother trying for one until they mature, grow some cajones, and are ready to be in a relationship (thru Match.com) 100% without feeling trapped.Should you go? Yes. I would also suggest not finding a roommate under such circumstances again, either; it makes things quite complicated...
It doesn't sound like you have had that much time to spend together. If the relationship (thru Match.com) is just starting up, I would be forgiving about him needing the time to figure out what he wants. I would go and give him another shot. If he continues to seem uninterested or unsure after you've been seeing each other for a while, then I would move on at that point...
So the two of you are roommates and now sort of dating? That can be sort of confusing. How are you working that?!.
Re the relationship (thru Match.com) aspect move slowly. There's nothing wrong with that and it's good to be able to express doubts, fears, wishes, dreams, etc. Build a foundation of friendship first..
But again - are you roommates? It's hard to keep things separate that way.
Yes, we live in the same house, but his room is downstairs right below mine. I feel as though living together already made him get really comfortable really fast and not try as hard. or something..Idk. I do feel that I lived somewhere else, he would be taking me out, getting me flowers, etc...trying to show that he cares. instead of us just popping in a movie or something when we are both home at night, or hanging in the living room watching tv. at this point I feel as though we should just go our seperate ways....as much as we can.
I feel he has pulled too many "stunts" and I am only 22 and so sick of this with so-called "men". Some of them must never really grow up, and I am tired of taking their crap. so for right now, unless there is some awakening his brain, things are coming to a hault. which for some reason, I am starting to want to date using Match.com other people, which is unusual for me. I must be lonely.