Your question was: Could they really be just BEST FRIENDS?.
Yes, it is totally possible. However, whether or not that's the case here, I think the burden is on your BF to do all he can to make you feel comfortable with their friendship. He's not doing thatin fact, it sounds like he's doing the opposite. Is that the type of treatment you want from your BF? I think it's highly disrespectful of him to do that to you and to your relationship.But, since you've spoken to him about it and he's not willing to change his behavior, it's up to you to decidecan you live with this or not? If not, then you need to end things with him and move on.Sheri..
I definitely don't want to end things with him. I'm just not sure what else to do. I'm going to sit him down tonight and tell him that I'm serious about this. See if he will take me seriously..
Good luck, I hope he is able to see your POVlet us know how it goes.Sheri..
I am among the doubtful that men and women, in most cases, can be platonic friends. However, the issue here is more like why is your BF using this friendship to needle you? Constant hugging and joking about sleeping with her is uncalled for and cruel to do to you - YOU should always exist..and not be pushed to the sidelines. It sounds like he wants to make you feel insecure about him and that is immature and that is not love. Myabe they did sleep together and he just doesn't want to come clean and enjoys the attention from her - an ego boost.I have included a link about guy/girl friendships:http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/8036/your-friends-scare-me;_ylc=X3oDMTFvZmdp...Your Friends Scare MeWhy do I feel threatened by my partner's opposite-sex friends?By Dr. Scott Haltzman hitchedmag.com Updated: Sep 3, 2007Question: Why do I feel threatened by my partner's opposite-sex friends? Answer: If your partner is enjoying the company of another person, and that person is someone of the opposite sex from your partner, the answer is pretty obvious: you're worried about your mate becoming sexually attracted to that person, and, well, you know what happens next....It's quite common for a couple to struggle with the thorny issue of opposite-sex friends. Sometimes the problem arises from one partner refusing to let go of past boyfriends or girlfriends.
In many job sites, including the military, men and women work side by side. When put into high-intensity situations, people bond. Some people, even if they're married, think that it's artificial to limit these positive work experiences to the office. They figure that if it feels good to be around their officemate during work, it should feel good spending time together after work as well.Even though your mate sees lots of good reasons to foster these friendships, you have an even better reason not to: because it threatens your relationship. You're concerned that if your partner has a friendship with a person today, it could grow into a love affair tomorrow.
This connection breeds feelings of "specialness" that leaves each with the sense that they have a unique understanding of each other one that other people can't appreciate. The big problem with this arrangement is that it excludes you and directs the energies that should be going into your relationship (thru Match.com) out toward other people.Your mate may believe that opposite-sex friendships are harmless because his or her friend is married. But that's just dead wrong! Many friendships outside of marriage start as "just friends" and grow closer and more intimate. Because these friendships are so fresh, interesting and compelling, it's not long before the two people involved start to think they are more compatible than their own life partners. It's a small step from that realization to the development of a full-blown affair, and the destruction of a marriage.Do you need to be concerned?Ask yourself these questions:1.
Are they spending time together outside of the office (even for office lunches) when other people are not around?3. Has your partner excluded this "friend" from your life, either by nottelling you when they are meeting, refusing to introduce you, or going into another room to talk on the phone when you are nearby?4. Does your partner tell you that he or she has the kind of relationship (thru Match.com) with this friend that you just couldn't understand?A "yes" to question #1 and any of the other three questions means your partner's friendship may be a threat to your relationship.If your mate is involved in a special relationship (thru Match.com) that makes you uncomfortable, don't ignore that feeling. You've got to ask for what you need for your mate to end further personal and exclusive friendships with people of the opposite sex. Remember, your partner may not be intending to hurt you, and may honestly feel like there is nothing to worry about.
That may be right, but frankly, not taking action is rude and unfair to you. In all cases, the needs of your relationship (thru Match.com) outweigh the needs of a friend. After all, you should always be number one on your partner's buddy list...
He would like you to believe that he is only platonic with her. He's emotionally involved with her that's for sure. He puts you aside to be with her.He a swinger, likes more than one girl. He wants an open relationship (thru Match.com) but doesn't tolerate you to have one also. If you want an exclusive relationship, this man isn't for you. He likes his women. The women he hangs out with are the same as he.I'd advise you to move on...