Your question was: Contacting people on Match.com?.
Just try your best to be in the moment, enjoy things as they are going on. The more you do that instead of projecting into the future, obsessing about the past, etc., the better off things will be. Good luck.
Yes, relationships happen when people get to know each other face to face.
Yes, seeing how a man treats (talks about) others is a very important key to someone's ability to conduct healthy relationships.
I agree with the Doyenne's advice .. just focus on the "now" and the time you are having with him now and not focus on the future or past. I think it is great that he wants and expects to hear affirmations and affection from you as well - that means he is investing in your relationship. ..