Your question was: Contact someone I found on Match.com?.
Well. The answer is quite obvious. You just met. So how can you possibly judge? You have to get to know each other. It sounds like you're already jumping to boyfriend status and you havent even been out on a date using Match.com yet. I dunno why females do this all the time..
Quit jumping to step 10 when you're not even at step 1..
Slow your roll. Chillax. Get to know him. Maybe he will like you more than just wanting casual sex. Maybe not. But you wont know unless you get to know him. ..
You're so right.Thank you for saying that. Frankly, I just needed to like, let out what was going on inside my head...
Venting is awesome. But the point is, you shouldn't have all these thoughts swimming in your head so early. Don't overanalyze. .
That doesnt mean dont be alert. I'm a big believer in trusting your instincts. But generally just enjoy your time together Also, remember, this is his chance to court you and show you his stuff! This is the time to find out if he's truly worth spending more time with...
You're right.I have become so insecure this last year. I was diagnosed with Clinical Depression over a year ago, and since then I've just been dead to the dating (online dating with Match.com) world. Naturally, just to kick me down a little more, I was sexually assaulted then last November when I went out on one of my first proper "dates" since all this stuff started.I have to say.. My dark fear is that no one will ever take an interest in me unless I do all the thinking and acting. It's weird, because that's the only aspect of my personality that is really control-freak-like.To actually meet someone who I truly got on with? had all the physical attributes I find attractive in a guy (not very conventional ones), and actually seems interested? Too good to be true..!Thing is, it's all very good saying, "don't overthink", how can I stop myself from thinking?..
I think that the best thing to do is to just experience the guy however it is he presents himself to you. Enjoy him at your birthday dinner and see if he asks you out. It could be a dating (online dating with Match.com) relationship (thru Match.com) or it could end up being sexual in nature - depending upon what both of you want from it and each other. The point is to have fun along the way..
And try to not discuss him or your dates with your friend because the game of telephone could really screw up anything good for you with him, not to mention any interference that her or her bf could add to the mix. You want this relationship (thru Match.com) to be between you and him...
What might help is to remember that it's just a guy. This one person is not going to make or break you. .
Also, raise the bar beyond that he just shows interest. Again, remember this is his chance to court you. ..
I think you're right about the "steering clear from getting best friend+her boyfriend". Thing is, it was her, my best friend, who introduced us, you know? She was saying for weeks, "Oh yeah, you are going to totally fancy this guy, he's just your type!" etc etc. I really am not someone who can keep things private, I am a venter.. There is something of a relief to be able to talk on here, I have to say.I am quite curious about how things are going to go tomorrow night. It is my birthday though, and I want to enjoy myself, not be overanalysing things. To be entirely honest, I really am not interested in a purely sexual relationship.
I appreciate the concept of "just fun", but I have suffered sexual abuse in the past, and it has just made me a little touchy in that respect. Plus, I am so sick of only being approached sexually. I want to be appreciated as a person, not as a piece of meat.(Thanks, by the way, to the both of you for caring.)xxx..