Your question was: Are online dating services like Match.com trustworthy?.
It seems like you already have it figured out - you're keeping your options open..
CL - Women of Color ..
Not really.... Like I said, I am finding it difficult to keep my options open, because I do like this guy... I know he is interested in me, and he knows I am interested in him. He has never been married. No children. He is close to my age (he is 42). He lives alone, doesn't like the bar scene. He usually stays home on weekends or visits his parents. Noone he works with believed he had a date using Match.com last night (which was me). I don't want to scare him off, but then I don't want to come off as being uninterested. So.....what is the usual thing to do after the second date? Sit and wait?.
<<I don't want to scare him off, but then I don't want to come off as being uninterested. So.....what is the usual thing to do after the second date? Sit and wait>>.
I am forever amazed at the extremes people often see - how about soemthing in the middle? He isn't your sole focus, nor should he be. What you do is still live your life and allow him in it.
You've posted issues with this before - you put the guy you were seeing in the center of your world and thtat made everything get out of balance. Its ok to really like someone - but by putting them in teh center of your world and the reason for your happiness, you set yourself up for some huge disappointments.
A date using Match.com is not a promise for a relationship (thru Match.com) and a kiss is not a contract. Keep your self grounded and accept the possibility that this could go no where just as easily as it could develop into something wonderful. the real key to that though is YOUR keeping your cool and not forcing intimacy and such. Let things develop naturally and stay busy doing the things you were doing before he came along..
It's only been 2 dates - way too early to talk about exclusivity... Just take it as it comes. Be in the moment, Be in your power.