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My question is: Anyone using Match.com in Los Angeles?.

My 2nd question is: I met a guy at the end of the summer (late August). He lives and hour and a half away. We've been seeing each other on and off since then (3 months). When we get together, we have a great time, but those times are few and far between..

He is hot and cold. One week he will call and email a bunch, then communication gets sporadic..

He's more cold than hot. And, incredibly lazy! He will text at 10PM "what's up?" He rarely calls. When we do go out, it's on very little notice. He would ask me out for a Saturday on a Friday. On times when I have made plans by Friday for Saturday, he would say, "you're always busy. You don't seem interested in me." I told him that I was interested, but that I need some notice. But, that didn't change his behavior to, say, give me more notice?.

The fun times we do have together are not enough to keep me interested.

Question: Do I tell him that I am looking for a more substantial relationship (thru Match.com) and that I just don't see the potential for one here? Or, just stop answering all communications and let him "get the hint"?.

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Comments (4)

How about the next time he calls, tell him you're not really interested in going out because you are looking for something different. You don't have to get specific. Don't answer his texts though...

Comment #1

Go out and find a real guy not these texting/lazy/needy guys. ..

Comment #2

Why does my world seem to be filled with the lazy ones? Where are the real guys? I think they are extinct...

Comment #3

Newsouthernyankee, the whole world isn't full of lazy guys, but YOUR world is because instead of saying something upfront, you let three months go by until it gets way out of hand..

So, instead of perpetuating the problem of lazy guys and still not calling him on his behavior before quietly slipping out the back door, YOU be the grown up here and tell him it's because he doesn't put in any effort, definitely not enough to keep your interest. .

MOST DEFINITELY do not let him smooth-talk his way back by promising a world of changes, etc.  Just keep walking and find yourself a man who doesn't need quite so much coaching.  Let him practice all his newfound skills with the next chick..

Best of luck,.

 CL-Breaking Up Is Hard to DoCL-Understanding MenCL-Ask the dating (online dating with Match.com) DoyenneRead This First:  How to Get Over Your BreakupWe waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.  Tom Robbins..

Comment #4


This question was taken from a support group/message board and re-posted here so others can learn from it.

 

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