That is bizarre. I guess wait until you find out what he has to say but if it were me, I would tell him what you said here in that it was before you even met him and it was also just fun on your vacation. .
I mean, it's hard to say what he's thinking but if I were to guess, he might be thinking that since you had a fling with this guy on vacation that maybe you're looking for a fling or more "free with your lovin'" than he's comfortable with or something? .
But regardless, there is no point in freaking out right now about it. Find out what this guy has to say. If he is jealous or judgmental about this, then you need to think whether this is really worth it. AT two weeks and with a guy from vacation that was before you met and that you'll never see again - jealousy should not even be in the picture. If he is going to be judgmental that you had fun with a guy on vacation, is that the kind of person you want to be with?.
. If he is jealous or judgmental about this, then you need to think whether this is really worth it. AT two weeks and with a guy from vacation that was before you met and that you'll never see again - jealousy should not even be in the picture. If he is going to be judgmental that you had fun with a guy on vacation, is that the kind of person you want to be with?.
Good question. If he freaks out then probably not.
You didnt mention it in your post, but were the pictures of you and this Jamaican guy displayed in a picture frame? Or just lying around outside of a photo album? If so, then he probably wants to make sure that you and this guy are not seeing each other anymore. Otherwise, why would you have the pictures out?..
Maybe he has a thing about people doing quick hook ups and he just wants to see your ideas on this. Don't worry about it until you talk to him!!.
They were laying in a pile with the other pictures that I was going to put in my photo album. Well, right now we are obviuosly not seeing each other anymore as he lives 2000 miles away. We have not talked about exclusive dating...
Maybe...who knows, just have to wait for hom to call..
It depends on what he asks/says when he calls. Since the two of you aren't exclusive, it's really none of his business but I would be honest with him if he asks if you are seeing other people. .
I hope you'll post an update as I am curious as to what his issue is, since as you say, the pics were taken before you met him..
Just got off the phone with him. He said his concern was that when he glanced at the pcitures that we looked very cozy and happy togehter. I explained that it happened before we met and that in the course of 2 weeks he and I had not talked about exclusive dating (online dating with Match.com) and even if we had so what my trip was 5 weeks ago, well before I knew him. He said that the pcitures hurt his feelings. I apoligized, but then said that in all honesty, if he had not been looking at something that was not out in the open then it would not be an issue. They were on top of my entertainemnt center.
He then asked what would happen if he and I were exclusive at that point. I told him that I am not sure I want to be exclusive with anyone right now that only time will tell. He did not like that answer and that was the end of the conversation. So my best guess is that we will not be seeing each other anymore...
Well, that's his perogative, if he doesn't want to continue to see youI'm not sure I'd want to date using Match.com someone who wasn't looking to be exclusive after dating (online dating with Match.com) for a few months, either (in fact I'm in that situation now and I'm leaning towards not seeing the guy again because we're not on the same page with what we want in that regard)..
But you were honest with him and that's all you can do..
Obviously the guy had feelings for you already and that's why the pictures hurt him. Many people are that way. Sure, he shouldnt have been rummaging through the pictures on top of your entertainment center, but it's too late to change that..
It was premature of him to ask the question "what if we were exclusive..." because he hadnt given you any indication that he *was* thinking of you in that way..
You were true to yourself, and that is all you can be...is yourself. ..
Well, I guess I have to chalk it up to expereince...