Your question was: About match.com?.
Maybe he's had an attitude adjustment but if I were you, I'd steer clear of this guy. Just remember what he was like before because that same creature still lurks underneath that cordial exterior he's presenting to you...
I honestly had not thought of that. Jeez!.
Why would a guy go from such intense dislke to going out of his way to please me...and even flirt with me? That makes no sense. Do you have any insight on this?.
It didnt make sense for him to dislike me either tho..
We had never exchanged 10 words the entire time we worked together 5 years ago and we worked for that company for ? about 4 years..or something like that.. together. When my guy friends and associates told me about how he reacted everytime my name ( and from what I heard alot of the time HE was the one bringing up my name) was mentioned it blew me away. He HATED me and did not even know me.
Is it possible for him to go from that to wanting to date?.
I do agree that you are rightI do need to stay away from him because all that has to be still lurking beneath the surface..
Welcome to the board!!.
People can change, but I'd watch him to be careful. Does he even remember that this is the same girl from the other job? Maybe he said those crazy things about you before to cover that he liked you. As immature as that sounds - it can happen. Maybe he was worried for his job because of the company policy. .
Maybe at this new job, he was worried that you would speak ill of him because of the poor treatment he gave you at the prior job. He could be being watched for this at this new job..
And yet anothe possibility is that he likes you. Anything is possible..
Hope I wasn't too wishy washy!!.
As far as this particular guy goes...who knows why he changed from belligerent to pleasant. But, go with your first impression of him. Whenever I have went against what my initial impression was of someone (in your case it would be the entire time you knew him at your first job) and decided to "give a chance" - I was disappointed and my final impression matched my initial impression. This works for friends as well as dates..
Maybe he was having a bad life when you first knew him - but that bad life carries forward because then you'll be faced with that ugly monster again when things get tough for him again and he copes with those challenges in a similar fashion, resulting in him taking things out on you. Life always brings about stress and misfortune and who wants to deal with that side to him again?.
If he hated you and didnt even know you I'd *definitely* stay away from him now. Hate can work itself into lust of some sort so maybe that is what he is feeling for you...